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Why I regret going to university

I am recent graduate from a degree this summer and I regret all of it. It is one of my biggest regrets and I feel it has harmed me irreparably and I will not be able to mentally or physically recover from the grief it has caused me.

I hated studying and I feel I only went because of my parents. I am now unemployed, despite working my hardest to attain a First Class degree. I also have made no friends, having only spoken to two people since I graduated. They literally do not care about me at all.

I will likely never use my degree in real life. I am going into an industry that does not even require a degree, so it was useless me attaining one. Also no one in my family cares about my degree. They were moaning at me for not having a job a week after graduation finished. It was that soon. No one cares about your degree.

If anything, a degree might actually be a hinderance rather than help considering the vast amount of unemployed graduates out there and that employers cry out for experience rather than qualifications. I am sure I will cry my eyes out when I start paying off my student loan because only then will I truly realise what a waste of time it was. Please don’t go. Do anything else but go. It will ruin your life. I wanted to write more but I do not have the time or energy anymore. Thanks for reading. Have a good day.

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what degree was it
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous #2
what degree was it

Don't wanna go into details but it was media related
I am truly sorry you had an awful experience but it’s not really appropriate to tell other people not to go because many folk have amazing and wonderful experiences at uni, and many industries also require a degree to be able to pursue a career therein. And as for paying back student loan, the practicality of this is that it amounts to comparatively little coming out of your salary every month, it’s not an amount which is going to be particularly noticeable or make or break the bank.

I think what’s most important to take from your post is to take into consideration the reasons one wants to go to uni and to not do it for the wrong ones or ones that serve little purpose. If someone’s chosen career path requires a degree then they have to get one, simple. But if a degree isn’t required then there are of course alternative qualification streams that can be explored and considered.
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Reply 4
Original post by Sorcerer of Old
I am truly sorry you had an awful experience but it’s not really appropriate to tell other people not to go because many folk have amazing and wonderful experiences at uni, and many industries also require a degree to be able to pursue a career therein. And as for paying back student loan, the practicality of this is that it amounts to comparatively little coming out of your salary every month, it’s not an amount which is going to be particularly noticeable or make or break the bank.

I think what’s most important to take from your post is to take into consideration the reasons one wants to go to uni and to not do it for the wrong ones or ones that serve little purpose. If someone’s chosen career path requires a degree then they have to get one, simple. But if a degree isn’t required then there are of course alternative qualification streams that can be explored and considered.

I agree with this however I am aware of more people who have regretted going to university than people who have made a success out of it. I know people who graduated 5 years ago who are still doing **** all with their lives on min wage jobs, and are living at home with their parents.
Original post by Anonymous #1
I agree with this however I am aware of more people who have regretted going to university than people who have made a success out of it. I know people who graduated 5 years ago who are still doing **** all with their lives on min wage jobs, and are living at home with their parents.

Well I suppose this perception or experience is going to vary wildly because in my case most of those I know who went to uni loved it and have indeed gone on to be successful in their own way. I think it must be said that uni isn’t a golden ticket that solves your life, it’s just as much about your attitude, behaviour and proactivity after you leave uni that creates a larger probability vortex of success. In any case, in your particular situation what’s done is done so it may be helpful for you to do some work on healing your emotional associations to uni and the damage you perceive has been caused.
Didn’t you say you were leaving TSR?

And only say that you were starting a degree even though you didn’t want to?
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Original post by Sorcerer of Old
Well I suppose this perception or experience is going to vary wildly because in my case most of those I know who went to uni loved it and have indeed gone on to be successful in their own way. I think it must be said that uni isn’t a golden ticket that solves your life, it’s just as much about your attitude, behaviour and proactivity after you leave uni that creates a larger probability vortex of success. In any case, in your particular situation what’s done is done so it may be helpful for you to do some work on healing your emotional associations to uni and the damage you perceive has been caused.

I don't think I can heal tbh. I think the damage is too severe
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous #3
Didn’t you say you were leaving TSR?

And only say that you were starting a degree even though you didn’t want to?

I haven't said this, you must be thinking of the wrong person.
Original post by Anonymous #1
I am recent graduate from a degree this summer and I regret all of it. It is one of my biggest regrets and I feel it has harmed me irreparably and I will not be able to mentally or physically recover from the grief it has caused me.

I hated studying and I feel I only went because of my parents. I am now unemployed, despite working my hardest to attain a First Class degree. I also have made no friends, having only spoken to two people since I graduated. They literally do not care about me at all.

I will likely never use my degree in real life. I am going into an industry that does not even require a degree, so it was useless me attaining one. Also no one in my family cares about my degree. They were moaning at me for not having a job a week after graduation finished. It was that soon. No one cares about your degree.

If anything, a degree might actually be a hinderance rather than help considering the vast amount of unemployed graduates out there and that employers cry out for experience rather than qualifications. I am sure I will cry my eyes out when I start paying off my student loan because only then will I truly realise what a waste of time it was. Please don’t go. Do anything else but go. It will ruin your life. I wanted to write more but I do not have the time or energy anymore. Thanks for reading. Have a good day.

im in my second year of my degree and have already been regretting going to uni unfortunately i never wanted to go because of the exact reasons of a degree not having any value anymore and experience being more required which is something uni should provide. i was forced and guilted into going to uni by my single mother who didn't understand and im afraid i will also be joining the long list of those who are unemployed and and are left will an insane amount of loans to repay, an immense amount of trauma and a wrecked mental health
Original post by Anonymous
im in my second year of my degree and have already been regretting going to uni unfortunately i never wanted to go because of the exact reasons of a degree not having any value anymore and experience being more required which is something uni should provide. i was forced and guilted into going to uni by my single mother who didn't understand and im afraid i will also be joining the long list of those who are unemployed and and are left will an insane amount of loans to repay, an immense amount of trauma and a wrecked mental health

There’s nothing to stop you gaining experience alongside your degree. That’s what the majority of students do - getting meaningful work experience during term time and holidays to consolidate their studies.

If you don’t want to complete your degree then that’s entirely your decision, as was starting it in the first place. You’re an adult. Manipulation from parents is unfortunate but giving in against your own judgement doesn’t stop that manipulation from happening - it just lets your parent know that their technique is effective. If you want to stop the manipulation then you need to start making your own decisions and reset your relationship with your parent.
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Original post by Anonymous #4
im in my second year of my degree and have already been regretting going to uni unfortunately i never wanted to go because of the exact reasons of a degree not having any value anymore and experience being more required which is something uni should provide. i was forced and guilted into going to uni by my single mother who didn't understand and im afraid i will also be joining the long list of those who are unemployed and and are left will an insane amount of loans to repay, an immense amount of trauma and a wrecked mental health

I feel the same way brother. I would legit drop out if you are that unhappy. I am still unemployed almost six months after my degree lmfao
Original post by Anonymous #1
I feel the same way brother. I would legit drop out if you are that unhappy. I am still unemployed almost six months after my degree lmfao

Can you apply in the Civil Service or become a teacher?
Original post by Anonymous #1
I am recent graduate from a degree this summer and I regret all of it. It is one of my biggest regrets and I feel it has harmed me irreparably and I will not be able to mentally or physically recover from the grief it has caused me.

I hated studying and I feel I only went because of my parents. I am now unemployed, despite working my hardest to attain a First Class degree. I also have made no friends, having only spoken to two people since I graduated. They literally do not care about me at all.

I will likely never use my degree in real life. I am going into an industry that does not even require a degree, so it was useless me attaining one. Also no one in my family cares about my degree. They were moaning at me for not having a job a week after graduation finished. It was that soon. No one cares about your degree.

If anything, a degree might actually be a hinderance rather than help considering the vast amount of unemployed graduates out there and that employers cry out for experience rather than qualifications. I am sure I will cry my eyes out when I start paying off my student loan because only then will I truly realise what a waste of time it was. Please don’t go. Do anything else but go. It will ruin your life. I wanted to write more but I do not have the time or energy anymore. Thanks for reading. Have a good day.

Hi there,

I'm sorry to read this. I had all of the same concerns before coming to university however, now in my final year, I think that it breaks down to your proactivity to gain experience during your degree and your proactivity after your degree. For you, I'd recommend contacting your university career service, you may still have limited access to their resources for a short time after graduation. There are other services such as 80000 hours for job support and guidance.

I hope this helps
All the best,
Jaz - Cardiff student rep
Reply 14
Original post by BreadForce
Can you apply in the Civil Service or become a teacher?

Teaching is probably one of the worst jobs you can do in this country (I have family members who are teachers so I can understand the issues within the profession). Civil service doesn't really offer the kind of jobs I can do very frequently
Reply 15
Original post by CardiffUni Rep
Hi there,

I'm sorry to read this. I had all of the same concerns before coming to university however, now in my final year, I think that it breaks down to your proactivity to gain experience during your degree and your proactivity after your degree. For you, I'd recommend contacting your university career service, you may still have limited access to their resources for a short time after graduation. There are other services such as 80000 hours for job support and guidance.

I hope this helps
All the best,
Jaz - Cardiff student rep

I might get in touch with my careers service, thanks.
Original post by Anonymous #1
I might get in touch with my careers service, thanks.

No problem! I know that it will work out!
Reply 17
Original post by CardiffUni Rep
No problem! I know that it will work out!

It won't, but ty for your concern.
Original post by Anonymous
It won't, but ty for your concern.


Not with that attitude it won’t.
It’s easier to say this than it is to practice, however try not to live in the past. Ok, you may not have enjoyed it - however you’ve done it.

You’ve got your degree and whether you realise it or not, it will make you more employable. Employment will be able to help you socialise more, too.

Spend some time getting out and doing things you enjoy too - will hopefully give you a more positive outlook.

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