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Struggling...

About myself: Introverted male student living in halls who does not drink.

1. Studying a course full of girls and all the males are all foreigners. All the girls have formed a clique, and so have all the foreigners. I've tried to the best of my ability starting conversations with people, but none of them were having it.
2. They were no sports and societies for me. I attended some but they all felt like a waste of time and not something I would enjoy. So yeah never met no friends from there either.
3. As I don't drink, I find it extremely hard to socialise with people from halls. Flatmates have all formed their own cliques and 3 of the 6 people have all found their flatmates for next year.

I feel EXTREMELY lonely and have made no friends at University as yet. The fact that my flatmates have already found their flatmates for next year and I have met no one apart from them means that I'm going to end up living with some random people next year and that is just making me extremely depressed as I don't want to go another year being lonely like I am now.

I really don't know what to do, some days I think I'm here for my degree lets just hate these 3 years and enjoy life after. Some days I think I will finish this year and take a gap year and days like today I just feel like dropping out as things don't seem to be getting any better and I feel like I'm just wasting my time and money.

If anyone can suggest anything or tell me about previous experiences that would be great, sorry for the length of this.

Reply 1

CatnipGlows

The normal way to meet people is to go to societies, meetings and such. There must be something you enjoy?
You don't have to drink, you can still go out clubbing with people, just don't drink alcohol. Maybe you could transfer to a different uni?

Reply 2

TwoLimes

Have a think about a society you *might* be interested in - for example, I tried drama, singing, football, karate, and running - until I found something I liked - improv - and I stuck with that & had a blast. Also if there aren't any societies like this at your uni, see if there are any you can join at a nearby university - I know man met & UoM have a thing where people at either uni can join their societies, and they even accept people outside of university too. Don't worry; sometimes finding these things takes a while.