'Friends' at University are making things harder for me *Advice please*
I didn't really know where to post this as I'm new - but I hope this category can kinda help me here 
I've been at Uni since September (Same as everyone else I guess!) In my first year.
I am studying the same subject as six people who I went to college with previously, we were all friends and it was through a study programme kind of thing that we all ended up at the same University and in the same class.
There are 4 new people in our class - it's a very small class. All of them seemed lovely at first.
A few weeks in I got chatting to a much older guy. He told me he was 29. The rest of us are all 18/19/20.
He seemed ok and I congratulated him for returning to study, as so many people don't these days. He told me he had actually never worked properly as he had modelled for the past few years - he then proceeded to show me his modelling photos, which I found very embarrassing but shrugged off.
Anyway, a few weeks on from this two of my friends became close to him, a male and a female.
Before this they were both very shy and inward, probably the hardest working out of all of us. Ever since they have made friends with this man this has changed - The girl now thinks she's gods gift. She will outright call herself beautiful and MEAN it and the boy is cocky and rude.
They walk around as a three pretty much laughing at everyone on our course, making stupid comments and generally being idiots. This 29 year old should honestly know better.
A few days ago I left class to use the toilet. We've always been a close knit class so I thought nothing of leaving my macbook logged in. When I came back I saw the 29 year old had gotten my student email blocked by spamming it with porn links (Sending it to the teachers and other students) Now normally I would find this funny, I'm not a prude at all but I've not been allowed my student email back as I was deemed as using it inappropriately and when I told one of my lecturers who had done it she brushed me off and said "It can't have been him, he's lovely" So I went on to tell her about the other antics he pulls in class and again got brushed off. I'm pretty sure its because she has a crush on him - she's 3 years younger than he is.
I have no idea what to do. He's older than most of our lecturers and he's behaving like this - in the beginning he was fine but then when he started to make friends with the younger people in our class he changed and is really immature.
What do you guys think I should do?
Thanks.
I've been at Uni since September (Same as everyone else I guess!) In my first year.
I am studying the same subject as six people who I went to college with previously, we were all friends and it was through a study programme kind of thing that we all ended up at the same University and in the same class.
There are 4 new people in our class - it's a very small class. All of them seemed lovely at first.
A few weeks in I got chatting to a much older guy. He told me he was 29. The rest of us are all 18/19/20.
He seemed ok and I congratulated him for returning to study, as so many people don't these days. He told me he had actually never worked properly as he had modelled for the past few years - he then proceeded to show me his modelling photos, which I found very embarrassing but shrugged off.
Anyway, a few weeks on from this two of my friends became close to him, a male and a female.
Before this they were both very shy and inward, probably the hardest working out of all of us. Ever since they have made friends with this man this has changed - The girl now thinks she's gods gift. She will outright call herself beautiful and MEAN it and the boy is cocky and rude.
They walk around as a three pretty much laughing at everyone on our course, making stupid comments and generally being idiots. This 29 year old should honestly know better.
A few days ago I left class to use the toilet. We've always been a close knit class so I thought nothing of leaving my macbook logged in. When I came back I saw the 29 year old had gotten my student email blocked by spamming it with porn links (Sending it to the teachers and other students) Now normally I would find this funny, I'm not a prude at all but I've not been allowed my student email back as I was deemed as using it inappropriately and when I told one of my lecturers who had done it she brushed me off and said "It can't have been him, he's lovely" So I went on to tell her about the other antics he pulls in class and again got brushed off. I'm pretty sure its because she has a crush on him - she's 3 years younger than he is.
I have no idea what to do. He's older than most of our lecturers and he's behaving like this - in the beginning he was fine but then when he started to make friends with the younger people in our class he changed and is really immature.
What do you guys think I should do?
Thanks.
Go higher up the chain. Speak to someone with more authority at your university, and tell them what's happened.
They can't leave it so that you are unable to use your university email while you're studying, especially as you weren't the one who sent the spam. So go higher up, explain the situation, and hopefully things should start to be sorted.
They can't leave it so that you are unable to use your university email while you're studying, especially as you weren't the one who sent the spam. So go higher up, explain the situation, and hopefully things should start to be sorted.
Sounds like a complete dick for a 29 year old.
You should report him to the higher authority of your university. That kind of behaviour is unacceptable and he also trespassed your belongings.
You should report him to the higher authority of your university. That kind of behaviour is unacceptable and he also trespassed your belongings.
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