I messed up with a guy

1.

How people seem via an online site and messages can be completely different thing to how they actually are in real life. It's therefore better to meet sooner rather than later. Wasting time on what turns out to be a dead end is not a good approach to life.

2.

Are you planning to move to his city or vice versa? If not how is the 60 miles distance going to pan out? What about all the men in your home city?

3.

Not meeting because a friend died indicates a sub-optimum inner philosophy from you. The death of a loved one should spur you on to go on more adventures in your life. Because you never know when your turn with the Grim Reaper will come.

4.

Not going on a date because of an issue at work indicates a sub-optimum inner philosophy from you. A great antidote to stress at work is having fun in your leisure time. What happens at work should stay at work. You should try to not take it home with you. Sometimes this is unavoidable, because we're humans, not robots. When that happens it's more important that you make the effort to fight against the misery or stress of your work by having as good a social life as you can.

5.

At this stage apologise and meet him tonight or tomorrow during the Bank Holiday.

6.

When you meet, aim to observe how he handles himself when things don't go his way. If he gets mad about stuff instead of keeping calm and carrying on you should dump him and aim for a man with more emotional strength.

7.

Try to get out of this scarcity mindset. There's an abundance of great men out there.

8.

Remind yourself that you are the prize. At least as much as he is.

9.

Aim to go on a lot more first dates than you have been doing. Instead of staying in watching TV (or whatever) go out and meet men for a quick drink and witty banter - as a real life soap opera *** comedy.