Have a male friend (I'm female). I'm just not exactly sure how he feels about me. It feels kind of uneven so I'd like some opinions.
He rarely asks how I am or what I've been up to, yet I ask him often.
He didn't remember my last birthday until the afternoon and only because I got a bit cross after hinting about it and said "I'm hinting at you here." Then he said "oh, happy birthday, sorry I'm ****." But I never forget his birthday. I always message him at midnight and offer to buy him a present (although sometimes he refuses). He's never bought me a birthday present.
A couple of years ago I had a lump in my leg and I told him I was going for a scan on a specific date. He forgot about it until about a week later, then asked me about it as an afterthought, and said again "sorry, I'm ****, I forgot." Yet when he had a lump on his neck that he had removed, I was comforting him even on his way to the clinic, and worrying about him.
He's only ever once bought me a Christmas present. When I got excited about it and said "you've never bought me a present before" he replied "you've never deserved it before." But every year I ask him if he'd like a present from me. Sometimes he accepts, other times he refuses.
He's really rich so cost isn't an issue for presents. He's got much more money than me.
If he's in pain, or ill, I fuss over him. But if I say I'm hurt or ill he either puts a laughing emojis or just says "Aw".
I got a really good grade (90%) on an assignment but when he told him he just said "what happened to the rest?" (as in the other 10%). Yet when he achieved things I cheer him on, call him a star, tell him I'm proud of him.
I tell him I love him (platonically) but he's never once said it back. But he has said before that he cares, and that he'd cry if I died, and that I'm his bestie / best friend, and he's said to me "you know how I feel."
He calls himself a **** a lot. I've said in frustration (when he's acted like a jerk) on several occasions "remind me again why I'm friends with you!" And he replies "I have no idea."
I just don't know what to think about him at all. I care about him very much, but doesn't all this just indicate that he's not bothered about me?
I also have a sort of suspicion that he could be a narcissist but I don't know for sure. He's said before that he keeps people in his life that are useful. So I asked him if I'm useful and he said "yes, very". So I asked him how I'm useful and he said "because you ask me questions like that" which makes no sense to me!
Can I please have some opinions on this