Feeling lonely at Uni

I feel really lonely and depressed at uni and im not sure what to do. My flatmates are all quite isolate and dont come out their rooms. I havent made any friends and feel so alone at the moment. I have joined societies but there hasnt been any events for me yet. Every day i just feel trapped in a cycle and trapped in my room on my own. What should i do?

I feel really lonely and depressed at uni and im not sure what to do. My flatmates are all quite isolate and dont come out their rooms. I havent made any friends and feel so alone at the moment. I have joined societies but there hasnt been any events for me yet. Every day i just feel trapped in a cycle and trapped in my room on my own. What should i do?

I feel really lonely and depressed at uni and im not sure what to do. My flatmates are all quite isolate and dont come out their rooms. I havent made any friends and feel so alone at the moment. I have joined societies but there hasnt been any events for me yet. Every day i just feel trapped in a cycle and trapped in my room on my own. What should i do?

I feel really lonely and depressed at uni and im not sure what to do. My flatmates are all quite isolate and dont come out their rooms. I havent made any friends and feel so alone at the moment. I have joined societies but there hasnt been any events for me yet. Every day i just feel trapped in a cycle and trapped in my room on my own. What should i do?

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling like this but I want to guarantee you that you are not alone in feeling like this.

It's a difficult situation when your flatmates are all quiet and don't like to socialise but it may just be that they are shy too and don't know how to open up to someone new. Trying simple things such as saying 'hello' or asking 'how their course is going' will hopefully open up a conversation opportunity which will hopefully develop into a friendship.

It's still quite early in the year so societies are probably still just getting set up for the year so I would stick with them and hopefully, they soon will start to have some events that you can attend and get to know people. The SU may also be running some events throughout the year so I would check their social media to see if there are any upcoming events you'd be interested in attending.

Trying to get to know others on your course is also a great opportunity to make friends and the people on your course will truly understand the struggles and difficulties you may encounter on your degree. Try saying hello to the person sitting next to you in a lecture and hopefully, that will open up a conversation that can be extended over a coffee or lunch.

I hope things get a little easier for you soon and try not to be to hard on yourself, friendships will come but they may just take time!

Mary
London South Bank University Student Rep (3rd-year Children's Nursing)

Hi there

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling upset, whilst it may seem that you are alone, there are many others in your situation. I felt the same way during my first year of University, and it was not until later on in the year that I started to make friends.
It is good that you have joined some societies. If they have not hosted any activities or events, perhaps something you could try is to look for active societies on social media. Perhaps they do not interest you at the moment, but it could be a good way to make friends.

Have you tried speaking to anyone from your course perhaps? I found that they were easier to speak to since we had a lot more in common, and we shared similar schedules.

I would also recommend speaking to your University's support and wellbeing team. They may be able to point you in the direction of any group events. Hopefully, they will also be able to give you advice and hear your thoughts out.

I hope this helps. I am sure you will make friends soon. Just keep trying to put yourself out there.
Chloe
University of Kent Student Rep

What uni?