All my friends never initiate conversation with me

I am a loner. I have 'friends' but it's always an effort to keep in contact with them. They would never initiate conversation with me and they have me on so many social media accounts as well as whatsapp so it's not like I'm not out there or anything. There's no point even having them on there if they ain't gonna talk to me.

I'm just super annoyed because I made effort into making new friends this year. When I see people still having their cliques and friendship groups all since they were like 12 years old (now 22 years old) and I'm here just wishing I had a friend for more than 2 months....Ugh!!!

I don't know what it is about me, but I feel that it's something about me personally that they don't like. But I'm a good person, I treat people well, i'm honest, well-humoured and I can hold a decent conversation.

Let's put it this way. If I didn't message anyone for an entire year, no one would message me first (this happened during my year in industry). Why does a friendship have to be so hard to maintain? Why does every ****ing friend I make just not give a **** afterwards? I try my best to keep the friendship going but surely it's a two-way thing, I can't always try to drag the friendship on.

It was even like this all through primary school, secondary school, university and up to my first job. I still have no friends now and I'm 24 years old. I feel that there is some conspiracy against my life, I don't know what to do or what I'm doing wrong. Help!

OP, 90% of your post described me, I think we should be friends over Skype or something

Oh please, you're 24. Much too old to be complaining about not having friends. Concentrate on your career instead.

I am a loner. I have 'friends' but it's always an effort to keep in contact with them. They would never initiate conversation with me and they have me on so many social media accounts as well as whatsapp so it's not like I'm not out there or anything. There's no point even having them on there if they ain't gonna talk to me.

I'm just super annoyed because I made effort into making new friends this year. When I see people still having their cliques and friendship groups all since they were like 12 years old (now 22 years old) and I'm here just wishing I had a friend for more than 2 months....Ugh!!!

I don't know what it is about me, but I feel that it's something about me personally that they don't like. But I'm a good person, I treat people well, i'm honest, well-humoured and I can hold a decent conversation.

Let's put it this way. If I didn't message anyone for an entire year, no one would message me first (this happened during my year in industry). Why does a friendship have to be so hard to maintain? Why does every ****ing friend I make just not give a **** afterwards? I try my best to keep the friendship going but surely it's a two-way thing, I can't always try to drag the friendship on.

It was even like this all through primary school, secondary school, university and up to my first job. I still have no friends now and I'm 24 years old. I feel that there is some conspiracy against my life, I don't know what to do or what I'm doing wrong. Help!

I am a loner. I have 'friends' but it's always an effort to keep in contact with them. They would never initiate conversation with me and they have me on so many social media accounts as well as whatsapp so it's not like I'm not out there or anything. There's no point even having them on there if they ain't gonna talk to me.

I'm just super annoyed because I made effort into making new friends this year. When I see people still having their cliques and friendship groups all since they were like 12 years old (now 22 years old) and I'm here just wishing I had a friend for more than 2 months....Ugh!!!

I don't know what it is about me, but I feel that it's something about me personally that they don't like. But I'm a good person, I treat people well, i'm honest, well-humoured and I can hold a decent conversation.

Let's put it this way. If I didn't message anyone for an entire year, no one would message me first (this happened during my year in industry). Why does a friendship have to be so hard to maintain? Why does every ****ing friend I make just not give a **** afterwards? I try my best to keep the friendship going but surely it's a two-way thing, I can't always try to drag the friendship on.

It was even like this all through primary school, secondary school, university and up to my first job. I still have no friends now and I'm 24 years old. I feel that there is some conspiracy against my life, I don't know what to do or what I'm doing wrong. Help!

I'm in the same boat, no one gives a crap about me...it's quite sad tbh. I put in the effort and no one makes the same effort back. It's like these people talk out of politeness, every time i initiate the convo

what you gotta do is try to make an effort. Think about it which friends do you talk to the most? Initiate convos, and organise an outing. such as football/basketball/movies/nandos/playstation 4. Anyways if you organise something then they will think of you when they organise something or something comes up and think about common intrests.

If all else fails then you could get a significant other

Don't get me wrong, when I had these 'friends' at school/uni we hung out, had a good time, caught up, etc... But after that? Nada, no talking and then too busy to meet up blah, blah blah. The friendship feels fake. How comes they are too busy to meet up but are more than happy to meet up with other friends? It makes no sense! I know it's something about me, like I have some penis attached to my face or something that repels people away from talking to me. But that is not the case!

hmm so they just say they are busy and dont give any time when they are free? Yeah, some people are stubborn when it comes to new friends they just stay with their old ones :/.

What are your interests/hobbys?

They aren't really friends then. Get some other friends who care about you enough to talk to you without you having to talk to them.

I go to the gym, go running, playing football, I used to play badminton and tennis but I'm recovering from a wrist injury. I'm quite a sporty person as you can see



Can't find any. That's been the problem my whole life.