How do you get a guy to ask you out?

I am not a very forward person but have been waiting for a guy to ask me out for a while. Most of my friend are in relationships but me.

Reply 1

Zarek

You make it abundantly clear you’d like to be asked out, and hope. Alternatively you seize the initiative and do the asking

Reply 2

emm4nuella

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Original post by Anonymous #1

I am not a very forward person but have been waiting for a guy to ask me out for a while. Most of my friend are in relationships but me.

don't be pressured into thinking you have to be in a relationship :smile:

! but if you really want a guy to ask you out, i guess you need to socialise a bit more - seek out new environments where you can meet new people

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Just freaking ask him out holy crap why is the onus solely on him

Reply 4

H8Courtship217

another reminder on how for all time and won't surprise me if it will always be this way, majority of women are stubborn and adamant about refusing to ask a guy out or just refusing to shoot their shot with a guy they like.

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

Weell.. it is the age-old situation and could end up something like what I just posted if he felt the same way as you:
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7442656

Reply 6

gjd800

My mrs literally said to me 'so when are you going to take me out, then?'

Reply 7

Anonymous #4

Original post by H8Courtship217

major incel over here

Reply 8

H8Courtship217

Original post by Anonymous #4

major incel over here

well its a tradition i will resent until the day i die, why can't women go after men too right?

Reply 9

Anonymous #5

Original post by Anonymous #2

Just freaking ask him out holy crap why is the onus solely on him

i think you missed the part where the person said “i’m not a very forward person” 🤦*♀️

Reply 10

H8Courtship217

Original post by Anonymous #5

i think you missed the part where the person said “i’m not a very forward person” 🤦*♀️

exactly, why can't women go after men too right?

Reply 11

ABBAForever2015

Why don't you invite him instead?

Reply 12

H8Courtship217

sometime i will hate and resent until the day i die

Reply 13

Wired_1800

Original post by Anonymous #1

I am not a very forward person but have been waiting for a guy to ask me out for a while. Most of my friend are in relationships but me.

If you are a feminist, you can do it yourself. If you are a traditionalist, you continue to wait.

If you are, don't pick and choose when to be a feminist.

Good luck

Reply 14

Muttly

Asking someone out is a risk. You fear rejection. Being asked out is the ultimate in flattery. The issue here is a task focussed issue on just one thing - 'He has to ask me out'

Why would he ask you out?

If you are frozen in fear of even having conversations, build your confidence and start your conversations gradually with complete strangers - the bus driver, the check out operator, the bar staff, anyone in the bus queue. If you relax and think about what someone has just said, then you can acknowledge and agree with them. Be open and be friendly. Most people start conversations with the usual non confrontational 'Oh this weather is awful isn't it?' Socially it allows you both to be on the same page to explore further comments if you both agree initially on something bland and agreeable.

This isn't just about you versus him. This is about you being left behind when everyone else has a 'mate' and it exposes your feelings to perhaps 'never getting a man'?

Fix your own comfort level first with friendly chatting with others and then practice building your confidence so you can just talk away with him. Ignore expecting him to ask you out. If someone asked you, and you decided to say 'no' it could be mildly embarrassing, but they survive. The same applies if you ask him. But think of the positives involved. Deal with this as him being a friend and nothing more. Just because this man is now 'on his own' does not mean he is a good match for you? Get to know him. But if you have the hots for him just ask if he would like to go on a date. What's the worst that can happen? He says 'no' - even if it is a 'no' he knows that he has one more cheer leader on his side than he did previously. And you also live to see another day, older, wiser etc