I started uni last october, from the first night of freshers there has been a guy I've got on incredibly well with, he's not particuarly attractive and a tiny bit large.
I had a boyfriend at the time and so never even considered him in any way other than a good mate.
Looking back in freshers i was being naive and while i never remember him trying to get off with me, i'd let him kiss my cheek and held his hand. I heard from others he thought i was fit and the guys would banter that he liked me, i honestly didn't click though.
Over time we've got very close, sometimes in the evenings he'd come over to my room to chat until late, once i was upset about something and he lay on my bed next to me but we didn't make any moves whatsoever.
I completely put him in the firend zone very early on although others joked stuff was going on we both brushed it off, he has a girlf, i have a boyf and we're just friends.
Over christmas I broke up with my boyfriend, he'd cheated on me and our relationship was fairly dead with him only making an effort when we visited each other and in between us just arguing about when we were free to call and why one of us hadn't replied to the others text etc...
I came back this term and the guy at uni was very awkward around me, not looking at me and we barely spoke for a few weeks until someone else pointed out to him how he was being and then he suddenly made an effort again and now we are close again.
He's told me things are very bad with his girlfriend, he only is able to see her int he holidays because she lives so far away. He says hes going to break up with her at easter.
Now he's said that and the situation of us both being single is likely, Ive realised I do have strong feelings for him. I don't find him physically attractive but I love his personality and how close and comfortable I am with him. I feel like he protects me and cares a lot, as do i for him. But a lot of this is in the same way I do for my best friends, I've strongly tried to keep him in the friend zone but recently I've started thinking 'what if' and realised I'd be very jealous of any other girl with him.
He really isn't at all physically attractive though, and people tell me i could do better, but i don't believe it.
I don't know what to do, I'm living with him in 2nd year so feel its a no go, i also dont want to ever loose our friendship and i have no idea how he feels about me..