Let's just clarify something.
Let's say the OP joins a pole dancing society and gets really good at pole dancing (all power to her).
Let's say she puts on a show for friends at the end of the year showcasing all the moves she has learnt. Obviously she will be wearing some kind of hot pants and a tube top as we have already been told that its impossible to pole dance in more clothing.
Now just hypothetically: if she did the exact same show in a strip club, would she get paid for it? Yes, undoubtedly.
So we can all agree that the actual activity is effectively identical. Its merely the setting and the payment that are different.