Betrayed by boyfriend and close friend..what to do?

But I did love him and care for him. I don't understand. Are you guys saying that I won't find a guy who wants what I want? Because it's not helping me right now.

Read my post above, nobody can question you because you didn't lead him on.

There are equal numbers of guys wondering the same thing, if there are any women who want to wait until marriage. You will find one but it will be hard, that's the reality of it.

Hi everyone.

I'm sorry if I sound whiny and/or irritating, but this morning, my boyfriend of five years broke up with me via text. We've been together since we were thirteen, and it shocked and hurt me badly to realize that our whole relationship has come to an end due to the fact that I'm "frigid" and "can't trust him enough to sleep with him". I can't stop crying, because I really did love him, and told him all of my past personal issues.

But just over an hour ago, my best friend told me that my now ex-boyfriend has been fooling around with another friend of mine whom I've known since childhood. They've apparently been fooling around for two of the five years we've been together. I didn't believe this at first, but now this childhood friend of mine is refusing to answer my calls and has deactivated her Facebook account, forcing me to accept the fact that she's done it.

Words aren't enough to express how..betrayed, heartbroken and depressed I feel. What hurts more is the fact that I could trust these two with my life, and it's painful and humiliating to think about what they'd been doing behind my back.

I live in a small town, so I expect everyone should know by now about what's happened. The only good thing about this is that I'll be moving to Cardiff come September due to university (hopefully), but I'm in tears right now, and I just don't know how to cope or what to do for the rest of the summer. Help..anyone?

I didn't even realize that. This whole thing is partly my fault, I was just leading him on,not giving him what he wants. I've been incredibly naive.

I didn't even realize that. This whole thing is partly my fault, I was just leading him on,not giving him what he wants. I've been incredibly naive.

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Did you tell him from the start, or at least not long after that you intended to wait until marriage or am I missing something?

This is a genuine question by the way, I'm not trying to make you feel worse than you already do feel.

I wouldn't say its your fault. I will say that a couple need to ensure they communicate. If one isn't getting what they want or need from the relationship, then they should let the other one know. Cheating is not the answer (which is why it isn't your fault).

As I said earlier, as hard as it is to accept, you are probably better off without either of them now. Anyone who cheats on you, and a friend who gets with your partner, are both not worth it. Try to keep yourself busy. Your going to uni soon anyway, so you'll have more than enough to distract you and stuff.

Yes, but from what you've just stated, guys need to have sex, so I don't blame him for doing so now.

I've got a job interview tomorrow, but I'm seriously considering not going.

Sad story. I would hate to be in your position right now. I don't want to make this situation worse in anyway but can I ask you an honest question:

Can you ever trust another man for a relationship? Can you trust your friends (if it's true that your close friend slept with your ex)?

I don't want you to make a knee-jerk decision to never trust anyone ever again because not everyone is a c**t. But at the same time, how can you trust people after what has just happened?

So what's your answer? How will you move on from this drama?

As I said, don't blame yourself, it isn't your fault. Cheating is not the answer. If he didn't feel happy without sex, then he should have told you and either worked around it or ended the relationship. Cheating is never the answer.

Go to the job interview. I know it'll be hard, but at least its something to take your mind of it. I remember when my ex dumped me I had my driving test the day after. I didn't want to go either, but did and just doing something helped me.

I've got a job interview tomorrow, but I'm seriously considering not going.

Go to the interview. Don't let the bastards ruin your life. Don't let them win.

Edit: Or as unlikely as it may be, see if you can rearrange the interview for a later time. Explain that there have been extenuating circumstances meaning that you may not be in the right state of mind for the interview. If this doesn't work, then good luck with the interview.

I don't think I can trust anyone after this. It will certainly take some time.

And that's why I'm here. I don't know how, because at the moment it hurts really badly, and I've broken my phone because I threw it at the wall and stamped on it in a fit of anger, and I'm just locked away in my bedroom feeling really alone and tired.

Thank you, so much. I can't seem to find the long post you wrote beforehand, but I did read it, and it made me smile.

Thank you. I'll go to the interview, and try my best to get it.

Nice.

Good luck.

Thanks for bothering to help.

No problem.

But I'm a big believer in "innocent until proven guilty". So try and confirm whether your ex cheated on you with your friend. But even if you can't or don't find out the truth, it's still important to move on since the relationship is over anyway and you just focus on living the best life you can.

All the best.

No, he called by my house about twenty minutes ago. I refused to talk to him, so he told my mum to tell me that "it's all true" and he's sorry. So I know.
Thanks.