Hurts to read these threads
When I look through this forum and see all of the threads and posts about relationships, it just hurts so much. I feel a sharp pain in my chest when I read things from people who have someone in their life who matters.
I feel the same way when I see people kissing in public, or when my friends talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends. Or in movies or television, or books, or games. I'm watching more porn than ever now, as it's about the only form of entertainment in which there is no love; nothing to make me hurt.
And I know that most of the threads on here are about problems in a relationship. But that's what I want - I want someone in my life who matters to me so much that they can upset me. I want someone who can make me smile and make me cry. I want, but I can't have.
I am so lonely. I've never even hugged or kissed anyone (save for a few family members), and I fear I will be like this forever.
Does anyone else feel a very real pain when they see those who have people who make their life worth living? Does anyone have any advice?
I feel the same way when I see people kissing in public, or when my friends talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends. Or in movies or television, or books, or games. I'm watching more porn than ever now, as it's about the only form of entertainment in which there is no love; nothing to make me hurt.
And I know that most of the threads on here are about problems in a relationship. But that's what I want - I want someone in my life who matters to me so much that they can upset me. I want someone who can make me smile and make me cry. I want, but I can't have.
I am so lonely. I've never even hugged or kissed anyone (save for a few family members), and I fear I will be like this forever.
Does anyone else feel a very real pain when they see those who have people who make their life worth living? Does anyone have any advice?
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7 hour delay in posting, bump.
You won't be alone forever. I only got my first proper boyfriend at the age of 18 and I've been with him for 4 years now and we're very happy. It was something that I never thought was possible for me, but I was proved wrong!
Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox
You won't be alone forever. I only got my first proper boyfriend at the age of 18 and I've been with him for 4 years now and we're very happy. It was something that I never thought was possible for me, but I was proved wrong!
I hope so. I feel like I'm made out as a freak, having never been on a date or anything. The problem is that no one's ever taken an interest in me, and I don't want to be physically intimate with people I don't know at parties.
Original post by PotPon
My friend believes you shouldn't look for love, it will find you.
He's been since for 4 years and he's 22 soon.
Do you get what I'm saying?
He's been since for 4 years and he's 22 soon.
Do you get what I'm saying?
There's a difference between sensibility and superstition.
I don't want to just try it with any old girl, but I haven't found anyone who I really like, who also likes me.
Your friend, on the other hand, is different because he doesn't want to look for love.
I do want to find love, your friend wants love to find him.
Original post by Chillaxer
You are wanting to want someone you can;t have, who you think everything of. That is not something to wish for, it's hell.
I'm wanting to have a relationship with someone.
I can't have that?
Thanks for your support...
Tbh porn won't help you at all...
Original post by PotPon
My friend believes you shouldn't look for love, it will find you.
He's been since for 4 years and he's 22 soon.
Do you get what I'm saying?
He's been since for 4 years and he's 22 soon.
Do you get what I'm saying?
I agree with this. While saying "love will find me" sounds vaguely poetic, it's really saying "I'm not going to put any effort into getting what I want, I expect things in life to just fall into my lap". Lazy. I'm not saying it's easy, but if finding love is very important to you, you should be doing a lot to make it happen.
"Two lovers entwined pass me by and heaven knows I'm miserable now." - The Smiths
You'll find it eventually don't worry : )
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your not alone 
Original post by thinktoomuch610
"Two lovers entwined pass me by and heaven knows I'm miserable now." - The Smiths
You'll find it eventually don't worry : )
You'll find it eventually don't worry : )
The lifelong celibate Morrissey offering hope for us all, then?
My brother didn't get a girlfriend until he fell in love at the age of 26 (seriously). He didn't give a **** about relationships and doesn't understand why people agonise over it so much and put so much of their own self-worth into other people, like it's become a fashion trend or something.
Oh OP <3
You dont have to be in love to be happy. You dont have to be in a relationship to find enjoyment in life. If you dont like where you are then change it, you are not a tree!!
You dont have to be in love to be happy. You dont have to be in a relationship to find enjoyment in life. If you dont like where you are then change it, you are not a tree!!
How old are you, OP? To be honest, I know how it feels in a way as I often find it extremely difficult to be around some couples, especially if they're into PDAs [[which a lot of them are, great]] However, don't think of a partner someone that makes life worth living. There's a lot of things that make life worth living, and glorifying the idea of having a partner will either make you feel worse now, or you'll be disappointed in the future. I know it's annoying to hear over and over 'the time will come' but I'm afraid that's all that anyone can do for now. But you're not alone, a lot of people I'm guessing find it annoying/ difficult to be around people who are in a happy relationship
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