How did you get over a break up

Ended it on good terms. Then got rid of everything to do with her and deleted her off of facebook and my phone...actually did that to her friends as well because I just didn't want to be reminded of anything of the past. In fact, I tried to erase her completely from my memory and forget about her but this hasn't happened yet (and considering what the relationship meant to me, and the fact it's been 11 months) I'm thinking that I'm still not over it completely.

I turned back to gaming, which I hadn't done properly since before we were dating (so pretty much about 18 months) and that sort of helped. I hung around with new friends who I got on well with, changed my image into who I wanted to be, and just tried to avoid her all the time (although when I'd be off to the club or out to a party I'd see her sitting or walking with someone nearby, which was always off-putting). I also put a lot more effort into college work for the two weeks immediately after the break-up but that stopped because I'm actually fairly lazy. I started to enjoy single life though, I put more hours in at work and I was free (thinking about it, I was free during the relationship anyway but I now had more time etc.)

I tried to move on, indeed I did move on by liking girls who I work with, and going to uni in September also helped because I'm at the opposite end of the country to her. I'm not really one for One Night Stands, well my looks and personality almost repel girls away from ONS's on nights out. But I'll always miss her, I'll always miss what we used to be before things went wrong. And even though I was pretty sour towards her and her friends after the break-up (which I am ashamed of) I'm pleased for her and what she's doing now - from what I've heard and what I can see from a distance, she's happy and that's great.

So I guess my advice on how to get over a break-up would be to just completely distract yourself from them. Act like you want to act and be who you want to be. Dig deep and get on with life because in time something better will throw itself at you! in fact, I'm planning on asking out a girl in my seminar class after Christmas and will learn from my mistakes in my last relationship so hopefully all goes well!

There is hope and there is time, you've just got to believe you'll be fine