Deep friendships

I've felt the same, I really want a 'deep' friend, something more than the usual superficial hangouts and conversation. Most people don't seem to like it though and find it weird if I try to have deep conversations, so I usually don't.
Currently I wouldn't say I have any. I think I've only really had two friendships that I'd class as deep. The first, well she was originally a mutual friend but once we met we got chatting more online as we both spent far too long on our laptops. I guess it became deep because we were both quite random people but we were both willing to continue things, so if I started a random trail of thought she'd continue and delve more into it when most people would laugh or move on. We both really clicked and as we went to school together we'd talk during the day, but that was more normal jokey conversation as other people were around, then we'd IM in the evenings at first, later we'd talk on the phone for literally hours, about anything and everything really. I guess because we spoke so much and knew all the normal stuff about each other we'd talk about all sorts of random stuff and thoughts and idea, and we both asked a lot of questions which helped.
The other one, she was just a crazy sort of person and normal conversation bored her, she was after more meaningful conversation and would ask the oddest things. It was a more brief friendship but I'd class it as deep.
Since neither of those are lesbian stories (much though as I read the first one back it sounds like it!), yeah I'd say it can be non-romantic.
I'm not really sure what you mean by spiritual!

Thank you, very much, for your contribution! By 'spiritual' I mean did you guys ever talk about religion, philosophy based on religion etc.? And do you think the deep friendship "happened by fate"?

Hi

Deep friendships are my favourite - and seeming speciality at times....
Im a girl - ALL of my deep relationships are with boys bar one (and my sister of course). I have 4 that I would class as deep - including my boyfriend; one I used to date, one is just a friend, and the third... well we sort of had one date but then he confided he was in emotional distress about many things in his life and suffering from depression and felt he couldn't carry on, so I decided to change roles and be the most caring friend I could be.

I think I develop deep friendships very well and very frequently because I love to listen to people, and I am genuinely interested in them - will ask more questions, develop the conversation - I love to find out what makes people tick... who they really are - I don't think that's a common trait these days. The word seems to be full of brief encounters and people concentrating only on their own path and happiness, people don't genuinely seem interested in others unless it is for their own gain... and that makes me sad.

I think our friendship became deep because He was going through some stuff- some of which I could identify with, some I just had to try and understand. He was tired of people not listening to him, or giving unhelpful suggestions, people judging him because of the depression and feeling like people didn't like him because of it. If he is unsure, he knows he can confide in me- and vice versa.
I told him I would listen to him any time, and rather than telling him to man up, I asked him WHY he felt that way, discussed life and its meanings with him, how he was feeling different and why, made him laugh with awkward anecdotes of my own.... basically showed him he is not alone, and he will always have a steady friend in me. We always start off talking in jokey ways, teasing one another, making jokes; but then we always have deep meaningful conversation - I think we became closer because we don't hold anything back. We tell one another the full story, share our problems and our triumphs, and support one another OR when needs be, tell one another when they are being silly - but always back it up with a reason. Nothing is ever irrational, its well thought through, guiding and said with kindness and respect. I love him very much, and I'm sure he knows I would do anything to help him should he ever needed it - he has also been there if I have ever needed anything too.

Spiritual? Yes, definitely. We talk about all aspects of the world and beliefs, it crops up again from time to time.

Did it happen by chance? most definitely. We had been at the same tiny campus at uni for years and never known one another existed until one night we went out with our tutor group and we had a chat - Initially I think we were just both really attracted to one another; as I said we had a date or two -but then he had to end things because of his problems; he needed me as a friend at that point more than a girlfriend.
And you know what? It was one of the best things that happened to me in my life at University - not only had I met someone I truly connected with on all levels - I feel like I have found one of the few people I could be good friends with for a very long time. He is feeling and coping so much better these days and Im so unspeakably proud of him - he, more than most people I know really deserves happiness -and I cannot wait to see his life pann out into the fantastic future he deserves

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Wow, this brought legitimate tears to my eyes. What you described is exactly what I've always wanted. You even mentioned that the guy has depression, which is something that I can relate to. Unfortunately, I have never had such a friendship.

Yeah I know nothing of that sort.

I think those with close friends wouldn't be on an internet forum, they'd be talking to/having fun with their friends right this moment. (Or be asleep now)