Thread for people lacking in self-confidence/social life.

Haha, I'm very sorry for that huge inconvenience. :P I loved it at GCSE, but I found it so boring at AS. Which topics are you studying in history? I hated maths at school but I want to study Biochemistry, so maths would be helpful. So far, however, AS maths isn't as bad as I expected.



Hi, I'm fine, thanks. How about you?

I am good thanks just incredibly bored.

so are any of you lot actually bothering to make a change, or are you just wallowing in pity?

Wallowing in apathy at this stage

good luck with being passive for the rest of your life

Haha, I'm very sorry for that huge inconvenience. :P I loved it at GCSE, but I found it so boring at AS. Which topics are you studying in history? I hated maths at school but I want to study Biochemistry, so maths would be helpful. So far, however, AS maths isn't as bad as I expected.

It was so much effort, if I didn't have to do that just think of everything I could've achieved with my life I'm doing Napoleon and Churchill, which are reasonable topics for me Hmm, that's weird, I think AS maths would be absolutely awful

No social butterflies allowed Hello how are you people?

Wow, I know. :L I've just added my academic information and some other stuff - I hope you'll forgive me for the major effort and inconvenience I caused. I studied USA 1890-1945 and Nazi Germany, which were both pretty boring. :/ I thought it would be too, but it's actually not that bad. It seems like we're only going over GCSE stuff at the moment, though, so I'm starting to worry that it could become awful and difficult soon.

so are any of you lot actually bothering to make a change, or are you just wallowing in pity?

Well maybe I'll forgive you, but I can hold a grudge for a long time
Oh, Nazi Germany would interest me The USA not so much
I hated GCSE maths, it was so boring, so that would be even more terrible

Thanks, I'm so honoured.
I thought Nazi Germany would be interesting, but it was boring at AS. My teacher was really bad as well. This one lesson, not too far away from exam period, he finished going through the powerpoint he planned to get through and couldn't be bothered teaching us anything else, so we ended up playing 'draw the mustache on Hitler'...
I found it boring as well, but I'm prepared to do it as an AS if it will help me with my degree.

You should be
Oh, what sort of things were involved? Oh wow, that's pretty bad
I could never be that dedicated to anything

Hello everyone

Well I started uni this past week and although I would say it has been fairly good so far, there have been a few problems with regards to confidence etc. I am not really into clubbing due to the dancing involved but don't mind drinking a bit. I feel that in my halls pretty much everyone loves drinking and clubbing and they all go out clubbing every night. I have been 3 times so far, and I would say they were okay but I cant really see myself going clubbing much any more. I also lack self confidence when talking to girls, and it feels like all the girls in my halls are really loud and love the boys that are loud too, but there is no other option at night times other than clubbing at the moment and so I don't really know what to do :/

hi..

Well this describes me pretty well

I'm attempting to throw a house party for my birthday, but I'm starting to worry about who will actually turn up, many people still haven't given me a definite answer, with a week and a half to go. I don't know if I'm just being neurotic.

Checking back in


How are you all?

Lol at first part. Well I really just came in to read...I do have "social anxiety" though, but it's calmed over the years because life will not let me hide in my shell. So I leave and put on a good front, like my best face forward. Everyone tells me I am confident and calm but on the inside I am literally dying. Also I have just learned it's embarrassing for family to catch me hiding obsessively peeping through the door if anyone is walking by. But I am still very self-conscious.

I am currently a seclude, like I only leave the house if I have to, and when I am out I do not socialize as much as I can. I ignore people in general, and if a girl talks to me to befriend me I pleasantly talk back and then go along my merry, leaving her standing there, or us only greeting each other next time we bump into one another. As for guys, I ignore them completely if they "holla." It sucks because I have all the traits of a "popular" girl and always get approached by girls to go out for a drink and guys to be theirs; but I am too shy to like...talk back

Sooo waste of a good outfit really but in Uni I am learning how to open up more. Thankfully, it's a city Uni so not boarding and everyone is invisible cuz it's so busy and crowded unless you're thirsty to stand out. But I have been new many times and gave up on socializing looong ago. It's not that I can't, I just don't want to; I attract baddies. Now it's just responsibilities and dates with a beau who is not intimidated by me.

Have you joined any societies clubs yet, try & join the ones not focused on clubbing, talk to more people on your course? Try & create a mindset where other people are judging you positively, don't over think situations & just be yourself. What are you studying btw?


Heyyyyyy How have you been?


Well at least you're trying, you've at least got people to send invitations to. I guess they might not see you as that much of a friend if that's there attitude. Must suck though being anxious about it, hoping it all ends up well for you

Not sure I've spoken to you yet, I'm good thanks How about yourself?


Ah shame you don't want to socialise anymore sure you don't want to give it another try? At least you have a someone to keep you company, that's a positive

Well it's just dating, but men are difficult &To be honest, I never initiate conversation. Partly because I'm very shy but mostly because I just can't be bothered to speak to people. They mostly start talking to me first and then I feel them out. I am tired of the people in my area, and my University is in the middle of my neighborhood, so the people who come in just don't make me want to bother socializing. They're like "twerk team" and want to be Nicki Minaj. Which is why if I do befriend someone they are basically like me as far as humor, image and interests, but from a different area/country/culture. When I was young I was very outgoing but bad turn during my teen years. Tryna get back to myself...

I don't know what and how to make friends at freshers??!! scared to go alone to any events, no one's going to speak to me? Want to bring my friends to uni !!