Quick background, I'll soon be 18 and Im a female.
A man cannot pick and choose when to be a father.
Basically, my father left me before I was even born so I know absolutely nothing about him. How he looks, what his name is... nothing.
Growing up, I never questioned where my father was and I never felt like I should meet him. I was and am happy with just being in a household with only my mum and half sister. So anyway, just the other day my mum informed me that my dad sent a letter through the door saying things like "thanks for looking after my daughter, please give her my number" which I found to be completely rude and cheeky, as if to say to my mum "thanks! you've done the hard bit of the child labour, now its my turn to reap what YOU'VE sewn", from a womans perspective; my mothers, i just can't allow him to try and come into contact with me after all my mums hard work, financially and emotionally with me. That is HER work, not shared with any man or woman. Which is one of the reasons I dont want to call him or have any contact with him. Not only that but to be honest, I have always been happy in my life without a father figure. It's not as if I am deprived of a father figure because I have never met him and had that sort of connection in the first place, so if I was to miss this chance of contact with him I really wouldn't care and I'm not the sort to chase after people.
And another question is why does he all of a sudden want to talk to me just as Im about to turn 18? Why when I'll be going to university the following year? Every part of my success in life is only to be shared with my mother and people that have been in my life to help me. I hope he is not wanting to talk to me to try and worm himself into my life now that I am en route to doing great things. Anyway not only that but he should know Im old enough to know that a man can't decide when its suitable for him to be a dad.
So whats your viewpoint and what do you think i should do?