Taking off my hijab

It's not me who said that. Pretty much every muslim I know has told me it's a cultural thing and not part of the religion.

Are they wrong?

That's fine I appreciate that you've got an opinion.
I think that what they said comes across negatively.
So let's just agree to disagree.

There is no right or wrong it is difference of opinion. You shouldn't insult them just because you don't like what they wear.

I'm not insulting them?

You are clearly trying to make a mockery and ridicule them for how they dress.

If you're desperate to believe that you're a victim, then you will read that into people's words.

I can't stop you from perceiving persecution in every innocent comment

hijab = np
those darth vader outfits = nono

They do realize that wearing a hijab is a personal choice?! Also, I am quite surprised that they expect their friends to get 'trashed'. Surely there are other ways of having fun?!

least they told you
most would say it behind your back

I think you have to look at it from the other perspective as well. To me a Hijab signifies a conservative religious attitude - why would he ask you out if he believes you are committed to Islam's teachings, which expressly prohibit it? Again, why would they ask you to come with them to clubs when it also wouldn't be in tune with your religion?

How would I know? I am always a person with an open mind so for as long as I've been working with them, I still joke and laugh with them. It was fun. But that 'fun' is not necessarily associated with 'flirting' or anything. I believe I still keep my manners intact as any other practising Muslim would.
Also to the person who say "they are just the whispers of satan", I don't think it needs to be said, but I'll say it anyway: what absolute bull****.

It's up to you, but I think it would be a mistake to dislike them or block them because of this. I think you're being a bit precious.

What they were saying, in their cack-handed way, was that they like your company and think you're cool, that you were different from their preconceptions of what a hijab-wearer would be like. It was supposed to be a compliment, admittedly ham-fisted in its expression.

And it has nothing to do with friendship coming at the expense of the hijab; it's a relationship coming at the expense of the hijab. That's very different. Just as you have your standards relating to your hijab, he has his standards that he would not date someone he believes is adhering to a superstitious and regressive practice. What he was saying, clearly, was that he liked you as more than a friend and wished it could have been more.

Look, if you want to feel all offended and go into the typical victimhood mode that many Muslims seem to thrive on, go ahead. These guys clearly liked you. You are welcome to turn that into a negative and hate them for their "Islamophobia" if you so wish

It's not a probelm for me (White mail) if somone wheres a Hijab or not at the end of the day you are in the UK and there are a few cutral diffrences. maby you could adapd yourself without compromising you beleafs substuse the hijab for a hat maby or don't where it in halls just when you are in uni or somthing. Go out but just don't drink . One final thaught are you living on your own why not ask that guy out he obviously likes you but is a bit soried because he is not a Muslim and some ove the older genration Muslims forbit the daugters to date non muslims i don't think you should let that stop you adapt but don't change for anyone

The people who matter won't judge you or will stop judging you whilst you explain they're prejudice. Don't change yourself for others; be confident in the decisions you make. You wear hijab for yourself and God not for random people on the street. I'm pretty sure you won't 'lose friends' by wearing a hijab. I, personally, would not want to be friends with people who didn't like me because of a head covering

At the end of last year that I was placed into a group of all males (they are locals) for a project. Initially, there was some awkward tension between us, especially when I was the only female and a hijabi. But I made an effort to not be awkward and joke with them in order to slash through the tense atmosphere. We hung out and laughed together to get the project done.

It was until a few days ago, when we all gathered in a group again, few of them told me they were quite surprised that I was such a fun person despite how I look. I asked them what do they mean by that. They said that it is such a shame that I have to conform to Islamic rules when they know I could have been a lot more outgoing than that; go out with them and get trashed on the weekends. One of them even went,'I really like you. I would have dated you if it wasn't because of your hijab'. I was so hurt. I never knew a friendship would come at an expense of 'taking my hijab off'.
The deadline is coming in about 2 weeks time and I couldn't bring myself to look into their eyes again. I knew I should have said something but I was literally gobsmacked. Knowing that I'm not in my own country, so I understand their ignorance on this issue, Now, I'm just off doing my own part in the group and not caring what the others are doing.

Do you reckon that I should say something back to them? I was just wondering if anyone else had been in a similar situation? For non-Muslims, are you really embarrassed to be seen with your Muslim friends, especially the hijab-wearing ones? I know some who do.

I personally wouldn't make much of an effort to befriend someone in a hijab. Only because it is an outward expression that they are clearly indoctrinated and hold views I do not agree with.


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er if only you realised that Shaytaan is satan in Arabic