If you had a son, what would you do in this situation?

You said you're not a drug addict. Taking into consideration that 1. drugs cause addiction and 2. you're using them, would you say you're at the stage before becoming a drug addict? Or...?
Have you ever been addicted to something so you know what it feels like? Do you have a rule, for eg. not more than 1 pot per week?

Anyway, let's say for this discussion's sake you are not an addict, and never will be. How much of a muggle can you be to say "it's one of those things you should experience in life because, hey, you only have one life"? *(yes, I'm using HP references so I won't have to insult you) YOLO? Let's jump off a bridge because, hey!, some people say it's one of those things we must try? There are no things we are supposed to try in life, each of us decides for ourselves. Please name some things that are not to try in life.

My idea about life goes like this. You only have one. That does not mean you should try everything, because YOLO. It means you should be careful about what you do, because you only have one ****ing life, and one silly mistake can (and does, in so many cases) brutally end it.

I've never even drank alochol really tbh but have you had a really bad experience with weed?

Lol, same as you, but I never tried weed. Nope, had a friend that tried it a few times and got really really sick every time, but usually I just can't talk properly to a friend if they are stoned, just call them back later.

*And pleeeease don't say it's less worse than alcohol cause this is really not a great argument, it just shows us how many really harming substances are legal*

You said you're not a drug addict. Taking into consideration that 1. drugs cause addiction and 2. you're using them, would you say you're at the stage before becoming a drug addict? Or...?
Have you ever been addicted to something so you know what it feels like? Do you have a rule, for eg. not more than 1 pot per week?

Anyway, let's say for this discussion's sake you are not an addict, and never will be. How much of a muggle can you be to say "it's one of those things you should experience in life because, hey, you only have one life"? *(yes, I'm using HP references so I won't have to insult you) YOLO? Let's jump off a bridge because, hey!, some people say it's one of those things we must try? There are no things we are supposed to try in life, each of us decides for ourselves. Please name some things that are not to try in life.

My idea about life goes like this. You only have one. That does not mean you should try everything, because YOLO. It means you should be careful about what you do, because you only have one ****ing life, and one silly mistake can (and does, in so many cases) brutally end it.

Cool story 10/10. All I'm saying is it doesn't hurt to try it, some people on this forum seem to think it's a knife to the chest or think I'm a drug addict, sigh.



My life is awesome thanks!

Trying weed hasn't killed me, I'm doing fine. Don't see why people are so hostile, or naturally assume because I've tried it I'm now suddenly an addict, seriously? It's like trying alcohol or trying a cigarette, it's just one of those things you do in life because hey why not? Does trying a beer make you an alcoholic?

Part of my bucket list was to try weed. Did it affect me or my life in anyway? Not at all. Has it affected anyone I know who's done it? Again, not at all!

The message I'm trying to say is just that it's one of those things you should experience in life because, hey, you only have one life. You should live it to the full, try new things and go out of your comfort zone on occasion. I'm not saying jump out the window, become a drug addict, or smoke weed daily, I'm saying maybe try it once in your life. This is just my opinion, fair enough if you don't agree with it.



You're completely correct in saying those who don't care if their children study or not will end up with lazy/dumb kids. I agree with you there, but at the same time they have their own lives they want to live. You can't lock them in their rooms and expect them to study 24/7, wtf?

There's a difference between helping your child become an educated individual and forcing their lives into study and nothing else.

As for them doing weed I give up on that topic. I still believe no matter how much you teach a child not to they probably still will, but whatever.

Bring on the 'trying weed makes you dumb/life ruined/you have no life or future' posts which are all completely incorrect. This is true for ADDICTS, but as I said, trying weed does not make you an addict.

I did weed ONCE and this was many months ago. I don't want nor have I craved it since then. If I was addicted, after all these MANY months I think I would have wanted it again by now. I know if I was addicted I would be smoking weed AT LEAST once every 2 months and it's been way longer than 2 months since that first time I tried it. It's safe to say I'm not addicted, because contrary to popular belief NO it doesn't make you addicted just from trying it once.

Read my full post please. Why are you asking and questioning me over what I think I should try in life. Did you not read where I said 'This is just my opinion, fair enough if you don't agree with it.' Cool, you don't agree with it. That's fine. I don't think doing weed compares to jumping off a bridge, but in your books it may, we have different opinions and that's fine.

I agree it doesn't mean you should try everything, again we just have different limits and that's fine.

Some will never touch alcohol in their life because they think it's dangerous let alone weed. That's okay, it's their lives and that's something they don't choose to do.

I did weed ONCE and this was many months ago. I don't want nor have I craved it since then. If I was addicted, after all these MANY months I think I would have wanted it again by now. I know if I was addicted I would be smoking weed AT LEAST once every 2 months and it's been way longer than 2 months since that first time I tried it. It's safe to say I'm not addicted, because contrary to popular belief NO it doesn't make you addicted just from trying it once.

Read my full post please. Why are you asking and questioning me over what I think I should try in life. Did you not read where I said 'This is just my opinion, fair enough if you don't agree with it.' Cool, you don't agree with it. That's fine. I don't think doing weed compares to jumping off a bridge, but in your books it may, we have different opinions and that's fine.

I agree it doesn't mean you should try everything, again we just have different limits and that's fine.

Some will never touch alcohol in their life because they think it's dangerous let alone weed. That's okay, it's their lives and that's something they don't choose to do.

I am open minded myself.I don't smoke weed not because my parents kept telling me not to,but because I have huge goals that I want to accomplish in my life.I don't want anything to deviate me from my path.I actually don't see anything wrong with smoking weed,the only "wrong" is the reasoning behind it,(for some people,I don't want to generalize)that if you don't smoke your life is boring,if you don't get drunk like a bitch you're boring etc etc.

For those who haven't felt how interesting a life with big goals can be (like I feel it myself)you will never want to smoke anything,not for the fact because you're "afraid" or because It's illegal but for the fact that there are way more interesting things that can be done(and you have fun doing them).
Those things that make you jump from the bed early in the morning because you're so excited to do them.Drugs deviate you from this happiness.

Moreso, because their children using it is not only the misuse of a drug

I've been wondering if I should just try a fag & weed once, tried a e cigarette once...

Oh, God bloody dammit, I actually did not see the part about being your opinion. Fair enough then *I also thought you are a current user, because why would anybody that tried it only once even talk about addiction*

May I ask why, specifically, you're asking about a son? Would you be fine with a daughter smoking weed?

I have 1 daughter and 3 sons. I have never smoked weed in my life, and I wouldn't want my children smoking it either (I'm aware that by TSR standards that makes me boring, and a terrible mother, so help me God I don't care ).

At the moment they're a bit young for me to be concerned (my eldest is 9) but at some point I intend to speak candidly with them about the proven effects of cannabis causing paranoia and so on. There's plenty of scientific research out there to back up what I intend to discuss with them.

Of course I shall also tell them about the medicinal benefits for people with specific illnesses, but I shall have a conversation about why it's not appropriate to use medication when you don't have that illness, etc.

I'll go into the temptations they'll be faced with - peer pressure, friends saying it feels good, and so on, because I don't want to just sound like "weed is bad and there's nothing good about it" as that could make them think I'm a liar if their mates are telling them it feels fab. So I will touch on that point, but I shall reiterate that the negatives outweigh the positives, citing examples and showing evidence.

I will engage with them in interactive discussions about it, not just sit and lecture.

If done properly rather than just in a "I say NO" kind of way, it's not impossible that it may have a lasting impact and they may not take drugs. Not a guarantee of course, but as I've never taken them myself, I hold out hope that the apple might not fall far from the tree.

At the moment, I think my 9 year old daughter probably won't, but my 7 year old son (who is a complete sheep and VERY susceptible to peer pressure) might succumb to taking drugs. The other two I don't know yet.

I can only do my best.

Incidentally, I'll tell you what hit home about drugs for me. Not weed related, but rather heroin (which obviously is nothing like weed) - but it was enough to make my mind up that I wasn't going to take any illegal substances, ever. It was in May 2000 when a 21 year old girl named Rachel Whitear who died of an overdose hit the newspapers, and her parents made the decision to release a photograph of her body to the press, curled up in the foetal position, all purple and awful looking, with a syringe in her hand.

I was 16 at the time, just taking my GCSEs, and until that point I'd obviously had PHSE lessons in school about the dangers of drugs and so on, but it was only an abstract concept until then. Seeing that girl's body though like that in the papers chilled me to the core.

the best things to do is educate them and allow them to experience / try them if they want to.