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Men don't like promiscuity

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See no I don't agree with that.
Let us take the example of the Chinese emperor in the forbidden city for example, before the constraints of public opinion were important in governmental control and the king could get away with whatever the hell he wanted: a paradigm of what we would all do when corrupted by unlimited power. And what were his sexual habits? (Besides His main companions who provide intellectual and emotional comfort, not just physical) A different woman every night, a woman who would never be allowed again to sleep with a man: what is his shall always be his, the ultimate alpha male. That the beast within us all tbh.

I don't get that, I would feel very uncomfortable with myself demanding that concubines be mine alone. Of course they would have to renounce their concubinage before they slept with anyone else but I would hate to control their sexual experience for life. Maybe I am too compassionate to be a king.

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Harrie Lyons

Original post by scrotgrot

I hope I wouldn't either, but that, like you said, is out of compassion. We're trying to see what the male libido desires detached from all other concerns, both situational and ethical, to better understand how this libidinous 'harem' urge leads to men contradicting themselves on what they want from women, a 'good girl' or a whore. Judging by the evidence of kings and emperors throughout history, I think it's clear the male sex drive does actually want 'good girls' (in the plural). Not the whore. The 'whore' is a settling.

Reply 22

Mankytoes

I honestly don't want any form of hareem. One woman is enough drama for me.

I don't think kings are really a good example of human condition. A king is told from day one (usually) that he is special, above all other men, powerful and great. That's a really, really bad way to socialise someone. Take the "child film star" effect and times it by a hundred.

People like hearing things like the OP, because it implies there's one, simple answer to the human/male condition, there's one innate, "true" way for people to act. Truth is it isn't that simple, we are all socialised differently, and there's no inherent way for us to be socialised. I don't care about a woman's sexual history. Maybe that's because of my socialisation, my politics, but just as much, maybe people who do care are affected by those things too. Everyone recognises socialisation, but sees it as something that happens to other people, while their own feelings and actions are somehow above it. Sorry, but when it comes down to it, you are an animal too.

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Zarek

It's not great to think your gf is completely indiscriminate. This said if a girl is attractive and appealing from what I've seen guys don't care so much how many partners she's had, they just want some of the action themselves..

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

Original post by Zarek

and then dump her when they've had enough action

Reply 25

Little Popcorns

I don't think of men like that any differently and wouldn't view them as marriage material either...

Reply 26

quoadusque

Original post by Little Popcorns

I don't think of men like that any differently and wouldn't view them as marriage material either...

My question is where does that leave guys like me who don't want a hareem but just one woman who they can love, and be faithful to? The OP has not answered that.

Reply 27

Little Popcorns

Original post by quoadusque

My question is where does that leave guys like me who don't want a hareem but just one woman who they can love, and be faithful to? The OP has not answered that.

it leaves you in a good place that's what most women want. Noone wants to be one of many, most people are looking for devotion. OP is the one that should be worried he sounds :yucky:

Reply 28

quoadusque

Original post by Little Popcorns

it leaves you in a good place that's what most women want. Noone wants to be one of many, most people are looking for devotion. OP is the one that should be worried he sounds :yucky:

Do you think he sounds like he wants an abusive relationship?

Reply 29

Little Popcorns

Original post by quoadusque

Do you think he sounds like he wants an abusive relationship?

I don't know about abusive but certainly unfair/unbalanced/unequal

Reply 30

JANOS SLYNT

yes alot of guys do not see slutty girls as girlfriend as their more likely to cheat same with men

Reply 31

Alyssa_kassar

I don't think any male in the UK is likely to have a harem anytime soon.

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Zarek

[QUOTE=Anonymous;57980003]and then dump her when they've had enough actionNot actually true if she's a complete babe, from what I've seen its the guy that tends to get cast aside

Reply 33

Harrie Lyons

Original post by Little Popcorns

it leaves you in a good place that's what most women want. Noone wants to be one of many, most people are looking for devotion. OP is the one that should be worried he sounds :yucky:

You misunderstand me if you think Im lauding this very common make impulse. Monogamy is the ethical choice, lifetime monogamy. I'm observing and describing, not encouraging.

Reply 34

Harrie Lyons

Original post by quoadusque

My question is where does that leave guys like me who don't want a hareem but just one woman who they can love, and be faithful to? The OP has not answered that.

If that truly is what you want (in order to prove that, I expect you're going to sleep with one woman you're whole life) I truly commend you, you are a good man and better than 99 percent of your peers.

Who cares tho?

Original post by Harrie Lyons

Women get bored too you know...
And the fact of the matter is dirty men who have stuck it in every hole going are equally unattractive women don't want a quicky with the local lad and a free sti either.

You need to get over it women are like men in their sexual appetites we might attach more emotional significance to it (not always the case a lot of men do more so than women) but that doesn't mean we wouldn't like to have that with lots of men. That isn't something I'm into and as the guy above said he isn't either...

Get over yourself mate you're just giving into your desires there's nothing exceptional about that.

Reply 37

The Warsmith

Is hate it if my gf/wife tried to make me jealous.

Reply 38

Numan786

Original post by Anonymous

People say this and this is the biggest bull**** ever. Just thinking how many people she has been intimate to puts me off tbh. It's got nothing to do with being good/bad in bed.

Think about it this way. Lets say you had two girlfriends, one of them had sex with 5 men before she got with you and the other had 0 partners but cheated on you with 5 men after she got with you. Let's not discuss crap such as "she had a life before you" etc. I mean physically, it hurts you to find out she has been cheating on you with other men. If you are okay with her having lots of partners before you then you should be okay with someone getting to that same number after getting with you. For me even the thought of her having sex with someone else if off putting. No double standards in my case though, i've had 2 chances to have sex at 6th form but I didn't take them.

There was also this other analogy. Theres two cans of coke. One is a cool unopen can of coke while the other has been opened and has had 7 dicks in it. Which would you take to drink? :rofl:

Reply 39

James2015

Men will sleep with as many attractive girls as they can unfortunately not many attractive women will sleep with them. Like a natural selection if you where a king your options will open up hugely but the average man has only a few options to be with an attractive woman. Only men who have few options say they want one girl for the rest of their lives put them in the position of a king when 10/10 girls are chucking themselves at him everyday and see what he says then.

I think it's pride like your the only man who is good enough to get that far with her no guy wants to think that other men are better then him. Every guy thinks he deserves more than any other guy in a perfect world only he will have sex with attractive women like when your a king you have the power to do that.