So stressed pls help

Idk what the point of this post is, especially for me as the mods will know :/
tbh i just want a rant/idk what to do sort of thing.
Feel like things are piling up and even though it is summer i haven't enjoyed it one tiny bit.
Everything i've done bar the internet/watching a few thriller films has been done for work as in school work and everything else i have to do.
I feel like i'm doing everything alone because of certain things and the fact that people sort of seem to take for granted that i just do things and get good marks.
idk what i'm really stressing over, ik im miles ahead in a lot of my subjects it is more stupid things like doing certain things before the summer holidays end such as getting clothes for it etc etc.
Im worried about money as well so im just buying my own school stuff etc with my own money and i dont like to ask my family for money even though i've had to because i've used up nearly all my own money. I just feel like every time i do something there is something else that needs doing and all the uni stuff is stressing me because im trying to balance alevels with all that (yes ik everyone has to do that). it isnt helping because all my subjects are very heavily coursework based and i require extra material outside of school for my uni application.
idk what is wrong with me either, i can go from being incredibly angry to dancing about even though im not really happy it is more of a way of just moving and letting out some energy. Just now i was crying and idek why which is what triggered this post really as i nearly choked on my dinner cos i was crying to myself.
I also dont feel ready for any of this, this whole year is scaring the crap out of me as well as stuff going on outside of school which im not going into. i dont feel old enough as a social hermit for all this uni business but at the same time i love to compare myself to 20-something year old's who have their lives together earning money etc and living independently which is a stupid thing to do.
I just feel like im getting ahead of myself and i am sincerely trying to take it a day at a time but im freaking myself out and nothing seems to get done unless i nag about it which i hate doing but it seems like ppl forget so i just end up doing it myself and stressing myself further.
argh.
sorry :redface:

Reply 1

999tigger

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You need to do an audit and write it all down.

Which things are causing you stress- why- what you cna do to control each one.
A large part of your stress is self exerted, so you cna control how much you put yourself under.
You need to find a balance knowing some is ok, but too much will make you less effective and so makes no sense.

Make a list of things to do or targets you need to achieve this year.
You already say you are way ahead in school work, so just organise yourself so you are in control.
Can you get yourself a Saturday job?
Part of stress management can be knowing when to take a break, relax and wind down or you will become less effective, anxious and unhappy. Taking care of yourself is important. Going out with friends, socialising can all help.

If you are still unsure then go and see your GP to get yourself checked out.
Just being better organised and focusing on things you cna make a difference at, but not the ones beyond your control should help you get things into perspective.
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/pages/understanding-stress.aspx
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/healthadvice/parentsandyouthinfo/youngpeople/copingwithstress.aspx
https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/our-services/anxiety-information/young-people-and-anxiety/

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by 999tigger

You need to do an audit and write it all down.

Which things are causing you stress- why- what you cna do to control each one.
A large part of your stress is self exerted, so you cna control how much you put yourself under.
You need to find a balance knowing some is ok, but too much will make you less effective and so makes no sense.

Make a list of things to do or targets you need to achieve this year.
You already say you are way ahead in school work, so just organise yourself so you are in control.
Can you get yourself a Saturday job?
Part of stress management can be knowing when to take a break, relax and wind down or you will become less effective, anxious and unhappy. Taking care of yourself is important. Going out with friends, socialising can all help.

If you are still unsure then go and see your GP to get yourself checked out.
Just being better organised and focusing on things you cna make a difference at, but not the ones beyond your control should help you get things into perspective.
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/pages/understanding-stress.aspx
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/healthadvice/parentsandyouthinfo/youngpeople/copingwithstress.aspx
https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk/our-services/anxiety-information/young-people-and-anxiety/