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    After reading The Beautiful and Damned, never. :afraid:
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    (Original post by *pitseleh*)
    Not sure why you've mentioned the former in responding to me, as I've not made any mention of the house I live in. But on that subject, you don't have to have a mortgage once you're married; a huge number of married people still rent; not everyone has the choice to buy. And unmarried couples living together also have bills and rent/mortgage to pay - not really seeing why marriage is the obstacle here?

    I find it strange that you think you 'miss out on' your 20s as a married person. My husband and I have worked on our careers and travelled pretty extensively (sometimes with each other, sometimes alone/with other friends) both before and after we were married. You don't have to do everything together if you're married, for goodness' sake. I just think it's weird to see being married as a barrier to doing normal things that married people everywhere are doing every day.*:confused:
    I don't want to live in a rented house, I want my own house with my own mortgage with my husband. Marriage isn't an obstacle, it's about financial stability as I've mentioned before.

    I want to finish my degree, get my masters and be young (carefree). I want to build my career. Like I said, I don't want to get married and share my life with someone else. I want to do things my own way and ideally get married at 28. You want to travel with your husband, that's fine but at the moment I don't want to. I want to things for myself and be selfish.
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    I'm not fussed about marriage - I have been with my partner for 5 years and always said I wanted to get engaged but not married.
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    (Original post by Eugenie Grandet)
    Exactly! If you want to do a massive extravaganza wedding that costs about £30,000 then sure, you probably need to have a high income in order to pay. But my partner and I just want to do a simple wedding, registry office with two witnesses and then have a party with friends/family afterwards. I bet I shall wear the same dress I wore to my graduation.
    Yes, quite!*We had a moderately expensive wedding (a bit over half of the national average.. but when the national average is more than £20k, even half of that is still expensive). Our priorities were good food, lots of free alcohol and a great party, and we got exactly what we wanted. But... we worked, saved and went without other stuff to afford it. If someone wants to spend £30k, that's their prerogative, just as if someone who wants to spend £30, that's theirs.
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    I don't want to live in a rented house, I want my own house with my own mortgage with my husband. Marriage isn't an obstacle, it's about financial stability as I've mentioned before.

    I want to finish my degree, get my masters and be young (carefree). I want to build my career. Like I said, I don't want to get married and share my life with someone else. I want to do things my own way and ideally get married at 28. You want to travel with your husband, that's fine but at the moment I don't want to. I want to things for myself and be selfish.
    Yes, I understand that those are your preferences; I just find them strange, as you probably find mine strange.

    Each to their own!
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    (Original post by Tw1x)
    I'm not fussed about marriage - I have been with my partner for 5 years and always said I wanted to get engaged but not married.
    Yes, it's up to you both whether you decide to get married now or in the future
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    Realistically, about 30 ish
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    (Original post by *pitseleh*)
    Yes, I understand that those are your preferences; I just find them strange, as you probably find mine strange.

    Each to their own!
    It's because in my culture it's deemed embarrasing not to have your own house lol! I guess different cultures have different views.

    I don't find your views strange, it's just I can't see myself getting married and settling down early. I feel anxious and worried thinking about it 😕 .. It's ultimately down to persons choice on whether they want to get married early or not.
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    (Original post by ||TheUnknown||)
    After reading The Beautiful and Damned, never. :afraid:
    Everyone has different views I guess
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    in my 30s
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    Yes, it's up to you both whether you decide to get married now or in the future
    Never. I don't see the point (apart from a financial POV) - the only reason I want to get engaged is because people look at us when we say we've been together 5 years and there's no commitment there, haha. Plus it sounds a little lame (to me) being closer to 30 than 20 calling someone 'boyfriend' after 5 years
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    It's because in my culture it's deemed embarrasing not to have your own house lol! I guess different cultures have different views.

    I don't find your views strange, it's just I can't see myself getting married and settling down early. I feel anxious and worried thinking about it 😕 .. It's ultimately down to persons choice on whether they want to get married early or not.
    I find that kind of sad; growing up is hard enough, without cultural/community pressure to do something (own a house) that a lot of people aren't able to do until they're much older, if at all. I'm sorry you have that pressure on you.

    It's totally fine that you feel like that; as I said in an earlier post, that's your choice, and it's no better or worse than anyone else's. No-one here seems to be pressuring you or anyone else to get married early, and nobody in your home/family life should be doing so either. Hope you manage to do what's right for you without too much reference to other people's opinions on what you should do.
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    (Original post by *pitseleh*)
    I find that kind of sad; growing up is hard enough, without cultural/community pressure to do something (own a house) that a lot of people aren't able to do until they're much older, if at all. I'm sorry you have that pressure on you.

    It's totally fine that you feel like that; as I said in an earlier post, that's your choice. No-one here seems to be pressuring you or anyone else to get married early, and nobody in your home/family life should be doing so either. Hope you manage to do what's right for you without too much reference to other people's opinions on what you should do. *
    I guess it is slightly sad but it's good to have pressure on you. In my opinion if you're going to build a family then you need to have a house regardless if it's rented or brought but my parents don't see it that way. You need somewhere to live obviously, my parents want me to have my own house with my husband etc. There's usually more pressure on males to have a house to live with their wife and children (old mentality) but ah well.

    Exactly, everyone should be entitled to get married whenever they'd like to do so and if they don't want to them that's fine aswell. My parents ideally would like me to get married around 26-28 but there's no exact age or any pressure .. They're more concerned about me getting my degree and masters!
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    (Original post by Tw1x)
    Never. I don't see the point (apart from a financial POV) - the only reason I want to get engaged is because people look at us when we say we've been together 5 years and there's no commitment there, haha. Plus it sounds a little lame (to me) being closer to 30 than 20 calling someone 'boyfriend' after 5 years
    Haha, it's not lame! It's your life, you should live it the way you want to don't get married because "people" want you to. It should be for yourself and your partner!
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    Haha, it's not lame! It's your life, you should live it the way you want to don't get married because "people" want you to. It should be for yourself and your partner!
    Ha, I plan to. I also have bad social anxiety so the idea of a day being all about me and people staring at me is too terrifying
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    (Original post by Tw1x)
    Ha, I plan to. I also have bad social anxiety so the idea of a day being all about me and people staring at me is too terrifying
    Well, if it helps keep it small so you won't have too many people looking at you 😜
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    24-32 I would like to get married around that time?
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    I would like to anyway...
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    At the end of the day, there is no need to mention what type of house you live in as it's irrelevant to this thread. There are a lot of things that come with marriage and a sort of that is paying bills in terms of mortgage which is what I was referring to.

    By getting married early I will miss out on my 20's as I plan on working on my career and going travelling etc. I want to be financially stable before I settle down and before that I have stuff I want to accomplish. My personal goals if you'd like.
    The reason I mentioned my house was because you suggested that all people who get married young are on benefits or being supported by their parents; I was illustrating that your assumption does not match my reality.

    I'm still unclear as to why you think career and travelling are incompatible with marriage. You seem to have an odd view of marriage, as if you somehow have to give up something.
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    (Original post by Doll Parts)
    The reason I mentioned my house was because you suggested that all people who get married young are on benefits or being supported by their parents; I was illustrating that your assumption does not match my reality.

    I'm still unclear as to why you think career and travelling are incompatible with marriage. You seem to have an odd view marriage, as if you somehow have to give up something.
    I've explained plenty of times why I want to get married late in this thread, read my other posts.

    Bye

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