Fellow introverts...?

From all of this I wouldn't say any of you (or myself included actually) are introverts in the true definition of the word.

I just don't like the impersonal approach that the clubbing lifestyle has. I will go clubbing with people who I know/trust not to ditch me the moment someone they think if hot walks passed. You want to go clubbing/out with people you know you are going to stick together with and you will have something to talk about the day after.

As for socialising in other ways, I am more contempt talking to someone who doesn't have a blood-alcohol level which is above the drink-drive limit, so clubs and societies are fantastic. Then I start to become more open to attending the socials ... but dressing up is a 'may do it, may not do it' problem each time, and my friends understand that.

Give and take really.

I thought an introvert was someone who preferred solitude to socialising.

Ok, so it's been 5 weeks and I'm generally settled.

However, am I not the only one who feels like a square peg going through a circular hole at times? It's so overwhelming how different I feel from the masses in this respect (although I've found a few good friends that are similar). I get out probably one/two nights a week max (most times one), and that's all I feel I need. Even then it's just with a few friends to nice little dingy pubs and we're generally back by...well this time - 12ish. I like this. I'm really not a fan of the "club" culture, dressing up in any sense, being "a lad", binge drinking and all that stuff?

It's just as I hear a lot of noise on a Friday night like tonight, I wonder what all the fuss is about for them. I'm quite happy back here now reading and listening to Sigur Rós and Pixies and then getting a good nights sleep!

Nice to know if there's others that don't subscribe completely to the typical student life. I feel in an incredibly small minority at the moment

I meant "introvert" in the sense that...

- You gather motivation (or to use Jung's outdated term - "energy") from times of solitude. Whether this is in going for a walk, listening to music, reading, watching a show, writing, being arty or whatever.

- You feel drained in extensive social situations where lots of people are about. IE, you find yourself getting rather bored/quiet and actually want to leave to find some time alone. This is probably linked to shyness in some sense.

- You prefer to have a small band of say half a dozen really close intimate friends, as opposed to having one or two good friends, and LOTS of "associates". This probably links to some kind of trust issue.

So generally, you live the uni life of going out at no more than a few nights a week - which even then is to somewhere that's no bustling and heaving with people. A life where meeting someone you click with is an infrequent yet momentous event (as oppossed to meeting new people weekly most of which will probably never bother with you again).

I like all the music thats been mentioned in this thread so far, and the OP's avatar is top dog.

Throw in some Pavement and I'm your best friend

Everyone who's staying in reading, check out Saul Bellow - he's getting me through my gap year one damp autum evening at a time

Introvert=me. That was like reading about myself

I don't know what definition of introvert you are referring to, but by the standard definition as defined by Jung I'd say most posters in this thread (including myself) are. Being introverted =/= shy/anti-social/only thinking of oneself.

I'm an extreme introvert. I feel that because i'm out all day at uni doing stuff, i need to return home at the end of the day and be with myself and reflect on things. I don't like crowds and noise, and mainstream music. Every time i socialise with big crowds, i find it extremely draining, i don't see the point. The random comments, the witty (or not so witty) jokes, the 'the other day this and this happened to me' tellings, it all bores me to tears. It just feels like i need to consciously try very hard to mirror their coverstaional style and bahaviour in order to intergrate, and i just ask myself what's the point? I don't enjoy it... So i end up leaving. Whenever i'm with my friend, we sometimes have in depth conversations, not necessarry philosophical, but we discuss things. Sometimes we make up stuff, kinda like creative writing but in coversation, it's hard to explain. Sometimes we just sit in silence, it can be nice sometimes to have someone there even though you're just doing your own thing, as sometimes it can get lonely. But what i discovered after moving in uni is that, the loneliness you get when you're alone sometimes is no where near the immense lonliness you feel when you're with a crowd of people you don't get along with. I would sit in a pub with tons and tons of people talking to me and i would think to myself i couldn't remember the last time i felt this lonely, considering i spend most of my time alone. It's very very strange. But yeah, i don't go on nights outs. I have very few friends. Nice to know there are others.

I'm an extreme introvert. I feel that because i'm out all day at uni doing stuff, i need to return home at the end of the day and be with myself and reflect on things. I don't like crowds and noise, and mainstream music. Every time i socialise with big crowds, i find it extremely draining, i don't see the point. The random comments, the witty (or not so witty) jokes, the 'the other day this and this happened to me' tellings, it all bores me to tears. It just feels like i need to consciously try very hard to mirror their coverstaional style and bahaviour in order to intergrate, and i just ask myself what's the point? I don't enjoy it... So i end up leaving. Whenever i'm with my friend, we sometimes have in depth conversations, not necessarry philosophical, but we discuss things. Sometimes we make up stuff, kinda like creative writing but in coversation, it's hard to explain. Sometimes we just sit in silence, it can be nice sometimes to have someone there even though you're just doing your own thing, as sometimes it can get lonely. But what i discovered after moving in uni is that, the loneliness you get when you're alone sometimes is no where near the immense lonliness you feel when you're with a crowd of people you don't get along with. I would sit in a pub with tons and tons of people talking to me and i would think to myself i couldn't remember the last time i felt this lonely, considering i spend most of my time alone. It's very very strange. But yeah, i don't go on nights outs. I have very few friends. Nice to know there are others.