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My School Banned Me From My Own Prom, who wants to help me fight back?

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Original post by Drewski
You hate the school, have beef with the teachers, no friends, bullied by most, and have anxiety that one student in particular will attack you whenever you leave the house.

Not going to what will unquestionably be a bloody awful 'party' (because they all are, without question), seems like the best option.

Why do you want to go?

where have i heard this before
ah yeah school shootings
(edited 2 years ago)
Reply 61
if you go to a private school you're going to have limited options; you should read the link provided to you in the first page about complaint procedure.

if you're unhappy the next step is to complain to the Department of Education, but they cannot look into individual complaints. sounds like tho they can look at general issues, like if there's a culture of bullying and your school is being neglectful in that area. i'm afraid tho there may not be any justice for you from being excluded from prom when it's already passed.

you might be able to get help from Childline.

https://www.childline.org.uk/get-support/
Reply 62
Original post by dylgeo
How is having a religion being a bigot may I ask?

This guys just trolling I think their not worth our time
Reply 63
Original post by cleveranimal56
It seems like you may be forceful in the way you voice your unpopular opinions.

I’m not forceful, people force their opinions on me and just harass me for having different opinions to them
Reply 64
Original post by yeetouttawindow
where have i heard this before
ah yeah school shootings

Dude can you please be respectful, just because someone gets bullied doesn’t mean that they are a school shooter!
Reply 65
Original post by lucab0112
Please help me guys.



Get your parents to hire out a club for the night, tell everybody there is a new prom, reduce the cost of entry to like half the price of the schools one. tell them first 30 tickets are FREE. try and get the popular kids to take the free tickets. once people see the popular kids jumping ship the rest will follow.

You will get your Prom and be able to get back at the teachers who banned you. :wink:
Reply 66
Original post by ReadingMum
In that case you should complain to the board of Governors - they are the route for complaints about teaching staff or bullying if the Head has not been supportive.
Attacking a teacher's car is absolutely not the way to behave and that would result in expulsion, whatever the provocation.

Yh that’s the problem we don’t think the governors who at the end of the day work for the school are gonna be of much assistance, however there are a couple which do seem to be on our side, I never mentioned anything about attacking a teachers car, so I’m not sure why you are talking about that?
Reply 67
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
That's what I was thinking. I'm unconvinced OP was banned for the reasons he's trying to portray himself as having been banned for.

So why do you think I’ve been banned?
Reply 68
Original post by teesxo
If you want widespread attention on this issue you could take it to twitter but honestly I feel like that would be too much in your case especially considering how nasty your peers are... The thing about secondary school is I feel like the teachers get tired of their job and stop fulfilling their roles as teachers by supporting us away from education (like our mental health) and just reach a point where they stop taking serious issues seriously unless they're getting backlash from parents, newspapers, social media etc. Even though you've been banned, spend the day doing something you love or going out instead... you don't need to be around those people

See that’s what I think a bit as well, as so many teachers just don’t care in secondary school, I haven’t got many followers on Twitter though :frown:
Original post by lucab0112
Yh that’s the problem we don’t think the governors who at the end of the day work for the school are gonna be of much assistance, however there are a couple which do seem to be on our side, I never mentioned anything about attacking a teachers car, so I’m not sure why you are talking about that?

Sorry- had just been on another thread with someone complaining about their treatment by teachers.
The Governors don't work for the school- they are a board of independent volunteers. The Governors appoint the Head.
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Reply 70
Original post by lucab0112
Hi guys I am a 16 year old boy who gets bullied at school, yes I’m one of the guys who eats alone at lunch etc, laugh all you want, I don’t care.

I have been the victim of bullying for about two years now and it’s really upset me, I’ve been psychologically emotionally and mentally abused. I have tried to complain to my school but it fell on practically deaf ears. I made numerous formal complaints yet this only made the school more angry and abusive.

Recently this one girl has been psychologically impacting me by bullying me and making up false accusations against me. She got the rumours going around the whole school which were proven by myself to be fake. She even admitted it herself she lied just because she wanted to see me get hurt etc. I lost many friends because of her and my reputation got damaged quite severely.

Yet the school ignored my cries for help, and my pleas to intervene and stop the bullying.

When I wrote a formal complaint the headmistress tried to tell me off, for writing too harshly because I called the school “wicked” for not helping me.

Now fast forward about 7 months. We had a school end of year prom and they decided to ban me from going because I made a formal complaint against the school for the hurt they caused me by letting me get bullied. I even bought a suit and was really excited for the occasion. I cried so much when I got told I would be banned. I have my suspicions that for some messed up reason that girl and a controversial teacher at the school have come up with a plan to ban me from the prom and leavers week. I also fear that they have much worse in stock for me, like at points I’ve literally feared for my life as I was scared if I spoke up, that girl might plan to have me stabbed etc (she knows rough people).

So far I’ve lost friends, my mental health is declining, I have anxiety etc brought on by this whole situation. I fear when I walk outside my house that this girl is going to plan for me to get beat up etc.

The school banned me from my own prom with little explanation despite my mums pleas for them not to. While they let this girl who bullied me go, and the school have even praised her for being horrible to me. I mean the headmistress told me she wouldn’t punish this girl because she was well liked. Another teacher told me “I was damaged and needed help” when I complained to her about what was going on.

It’s a nightmare in reality and I feel betrayed, humiliated and hurt by those who were supposed to protect me and I feel bullied and intimidated by this girl.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or knows how to fight back (obviously in a peaceful way) without causing any further problems, please let me know. I’m also scared that if I mention this case the school might try and do me for defamation against them. Please help me guys.


I suspect that there is a complexity to this situation.

I can't quite fathom out what it is, though.

My advice would be to contact a solicitor who specialises in Education Law, someone like Dan Rosenberg at Simpson Millar would be an excellent first port of call.

https://www.simpsonmillar.co.uk/our-people/dan-rosenberg/
Original post by yeetouttawindow
where have i heard this before
ah yeah school shootings

😂😂😂
We probably don't know the full story. You said that you have "conservative Christian opinions", have these opinions made anyone feel unsafe, hence you being banned from prom? Very sorry for your situation
Just get mummy and daddy to withhold some of your final term fee to the value that you would place on the prom - maybe the amount you spent on the suit if you can’t get a refund from the shop.

There’s no “justice” to be had here. Seeking petty revenge isn’t very Christian. Time to turn the other cheek.
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Original post by lucab0112
This guys just trolling I think their not worth our time

How Christian of you :h:
Original post by lucab0112
Hi guys I am a 16 year old boy who gets bullied at school, yes I’m one of the guys who eats alone at lunch etc, laugh all you want, I don’t care.

I have been the victim of bullying for about two years now and it’s really upset me, I’ve been psychologically emotionally and mentally abused. I have tried to complain to my school but it fell on practically deaf ears. I made numerous formal complaints yet this only made the school more angry and abusive.

Recently this one girl has been psychologically impacting me by bullying me and making up false accusations against me. She got the rumours going around the whole school which were proven by myself to be fake. She even admitted it herself she lied just because she wanted to see me get hurt etc. I lost many friends because of her and my reputation got damaged quite severely.

Yet the school ignored my cries for help, and my pleas to intervene and stop the bullying.

When I wrote a formal complaint the headmistress tried to tell me off, for writing too harshly because I called the school “wicked” for not helping me.

Now fast forward about 7 months. We had a school end of year prom and they decided to ban me from going because I made a formal complaint against the school for the hurt they caused me by letting me get bullied. I even bought a suit and was really excited for the occasion. I cried so much when I got told I would be banned. I have my suspicions that for some messed up reason that girl and a controversial teacher at the school have come up with a plan to ban me from the prom and leavers week. I also fear that they have much worse in stock for me, like at points I’ve literally feared for my life as I was scared if I spoke up, that girl might plan to have me stabbed etc (she knows rough people).

So far I’ve lost friends, my mental health is declining, I have anxiety etc brought on by this whole situation. I fear when I walk outside my house that this girl is going to plan for me to get beat up etc.

The school banned me from my own prom with little explanation despite my mums pleas for them not to. While they let this girl who bullied me go, and the school have even praised her for being horrible to me. I mean the headmistress told me she wouldn’t punish this girl because she was well liked. Another teacher told me “I was damaged and needed help” when I complained to her about what was going on.

It’s a nightmare in reality and I feel betrayed, humiliated and hurt by those who were supposed to protect me and I feel bullied and intimidated by this girl.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or knows how to fight back (obviously in a peaceful way) without causing any further problems, please let me know. I’m also scared that if I mention this case the school might try and do me for defamation against them. Please help me guys.


Oh wow- this is humiliating. Why would a school actually do that?? If you’re trying to fight back in sometimes can put you further into silence :/ my advice is maybe create an anti bullying club/podcast at your school to achieve equality.
Original post by lucab0112
What do you mean?

Have your local church throw you a prom-like party instead of forcing your school to let you go to their prom.
Tell your parents and contact the school board
I’m sure they’re all gutted that they no longer have to deal with you and you’ve been booted out without qualifications and without the chance of a positive reference.

You really aren’t the winner in this situation.
“Haha, I gave those no-good teachers so much evidence that they had no choice but to exclude me!”
“You do realise that’s exactly the outcome they wanted, right?”
“Well, i er…”
“And your life now?”
“Yeah, not great if I’m honest.”

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