🌼🍉 Brownies, books and planning a wedding - your favourite fiancés’ 2nd blog 🍉🌼

I know, I'm well aware I'm extremely privileged, and since I almost got kicked out of my family when I first came out I'm totally aware of how much my parents do for me and how lucky I am to be able to afford university and stuff. But I also think that just because others have it worse, that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to feel sad or anxious from time to time. After all, I do still have anxiety and that won't go away just because I can go on holidays!

I know, I'm well aware I'm extremely privileged, and since I almost got kicked out of my family when I first came out I'm totally aware of how much my parents do for me and how lucky I am to be able to afford university and stuff. But I also think that just because others have it worse, that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to feel sad or anxious from time to time. After all, I do still have anxiety and that won't go away just because I can go on holidays!

I completely agree in that I don't think it means you're not allowed to feel anxious or sad - they're natural emotions. What I think my point is that you do have a tendency at times to fixate on feeling sad and I sometimes think that you're disconnected from the real world. Of course you can be sad, but in reality you have little to be sad about and you live what is, in reality, a very privileged lifestyle with having the ability to have several holidays over summer, to maintain a decent lifestyle without working, and you have a fiance who loves you to bits. I think what I'm trying to say is that it's worth thinking about whether you're, or your subconscious, is creating sadness when in reality there doesn't need to be any.

I know I do that sometimes, last night I was only sad because my anxiety created a situation that wasn't really there and then I cried about it, I know that's a bit pathetic but it's hard to break out of sad moods when my anxiety is involved Fortunately I'm feeling much better today, Alex and I went to the gym for the first time this morning, it was embarrassing how unfit we both are but we had a laugh

I know I do that sometimes, last night I was only sad because my anxiety created a situation that wasn't really there and then I cried about it, I know that's a bit pathetic but it's hard to break out of sad moods when my anxiety is involved Fortunately I'm feeling much better today, Alex and I went to the gym for the first time this morning, it was embarrassing how unfit we both are but we had a laugh

I know I do that sometimes, last night I was only sad because my anxiety created a situation that wasn't really there and then I cried about it, I know that's a bit pathetic but it's hard to break out of sad moods when my anxiety is involved Fortunately I'm feeling much better today, Alex and I went to the gym for the first time this morning, it was embarrassing how unfit we both are but we had a laugh

I get that, but I also think it's worth starting to confront that and develop better coping strategies. Like with my PTSD, I've found it really, really useful to have independent coping strategies which are healthy and which short cut that and it's really worked for me. I'm glad that you've had a great day and you're not tempting me to go to the gym!

Nathan, I know what you mean because I have been there myself.
Just concentrate on your coping mechanisms when things start to look bleak.
You will get through this because you can now recognise when things are getting on top of you and know how to deal with it.

I get that, at times I get sad because I feel unlovable but then I realise that's ******** and watch funny tiktoks. Having something to fall back on is really important

You should've seen me 5 years ago, I was much worse then than I am now, so I've definitely worked on coping strategies and stuff, and I still do try! I don't have any access to counselling or therapy at the moment, I may be privileged but that's one thing I can't afford So it's just me and I'm trying very hard to stay on top of things, but it's been difficult with all the lockdowns and then things opening up again The gym isn't as bad as it sounds, there's lots of fit guys there showing off


Thank you I really do try my best, but I guess sometimes it looks like I'm not doing anything because I just get into bed and cry


I find it hard to set my feelings aside and distract myself, but you're right, that stuff is important

Glad you're ok
There's some kids outside my local takeaway (17 year old boys) who won't stop staring at my walking aids and I'm pretty sure they pointed and laughed so I feel uncomfortable yay fun!

Ugh, teenage boys are the worst, that's so mean I hope they didn't stay around for long!

They did but I just walked the long way home. People seem to have become more annoying like that recently

I'm sorry to hear that People are so immature!

Omg that’s tough 😳- are you sure it shouldn’t be
1.5 points coffee and cake
3.0 points cinema
Etc… did you miss the decimal points out?

@josie71202 my friend who has a visible disability, if someone stares at her she just stops and smiles and says ‘hello can I help you?’… they usually just look really awkward and bugger off.

It’s so hot!!! And it’s my birthday at the weekend and M is being really secretive about what we’re doing. And he’s been involving my mum in whatever the plan is as they keep going quiet or changing the subject when I walk in the room. I’m kinda freaking out a bit.

I'm sure they have a good plan so don't worry and happy birthday

I tend to stare back at people who stare but they're bloody everywhere. I guess I've started noticing more and it's bothering me. It's just that a lot of little things have been bothering me recently it's just adding up.

People are idiots - I know not on the same level but when I was ill people would stare and comment, it gets you down.

It’s my 21st - I feel old, I like being 20!

Omg that’s tough 😳- are you sure it shouldn’t be
1.5 points coffee and cake
3.0 points cinema
Etc… did you miss the decimal points out?

@josie71202 my friend who has a visible disability, if someone stares at her she just stops and smiles and says ‘hello can I help you?’… they usually just look really awkward and bugger off.

It’s so hot!!! And it’s my birthday at the weekend and M is being really secretive about what we’re doing. And he’s been involving my mum in whatever the plan is as they keep going quiet or changing the subject when I walk in the room. I’m kinda freaking out a bit.

I wish!! But we're not going to get those muscles if we only work out for a few minutes each

Oooooohhhh that's exciting! You'll have to let us know all the details, I'm just saying when Alex and my mum were being secretive, he ended up proposing to me!