In short, my narcissistic, sociopathic uncle is ruining my life. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
He has always been a vile person: racist to the point he has been prosecuted. Vile. He has no humanity, no empathy and is now completely alone as a result.
In 2020, totally out of the blue he told us he had an extremely rare genetic lung condition only 3000 people in the world have and he only had 6 months to live. (It’s 2023 and he’s still here…) he has made my family’s life hell ever since. We have not had a break or a holiday from him. He texts saying he is dying or needs something- I once counted 40-80 texts per day. He’ll text to say he is constipated or needs incontinence pads at midnight. He will call at 3:00 a.m. saying he can’t breathe- we rush over and there is nothing wrong. We have been living with this level of hell for 3 years.
Despite all of this, I got a place at Oxford. Initially I took a gap year on compassionate grounds believing my uncle when he said he had months to live. I had to go this year but I really don’t think I can continue. I have had to move home because my mum can’t cope with my uncle. I am struggling SO badly to get a 2:2 first year. My college are amazing and have made so many allowances for me but they can only do so much.
I am utterly exhausted by life. In my gap year I worked, earned money and travelled often to escape. Now I don’t have the means to do that.
Please don’t tell me to move out- I know I should. I tried but within 3 weeks my mum has been hospitalised with exhaustion because she couldn’t cope. We tried to get carers for him but he cancelled them and he is still apparently mentally fit so his wishes are what happens.
Do I have any other options? A year likely won’t solve it- I can’t see he will have died by then when according to him his death has been imminent for three years. I really don’t want to give up my place at Oxford but I just can’t continue like this. Oxford was my dream but I can’t enjoy it at all. I am considering transferring to an Ivy League perhaps but I just want to be at Oxford.