Take out societies and uni is plain dry.

We should just admit it. I had a very dull year compared to what I expected (expectations weren't very high to begin with regarding social life). Also, if you want to make friends, clubs and societies ain't it. Just my experience. Also, it feels like there's nobody in other halls, oddly dark and quiet.

Original post by username6340769

We should just admit it. I had a very dull year compared to what I expected (expectations weren't very high to begin with regarding social life). Also, if you want to make friends, clubs and societies ain't it. Just my experience. Also, it feels like there's nobody in other halls, oddly dark and quiet.

Hi there,

Can I ask what you feel is less social about societies? I've personally made some really good friends through sharing accommodation, my course and societies. Perhaps if you don't have one that suits you, you could create your own new one at your uni? It'd also be great for your CV

Hope that helps :smile:

Jaz - Cardiff student rep

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normaw

Clearing and Applications Advisor, Universities Forum Helper

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Original post by username6340769

We should just admit it. I had a very dull year compared to what I expected (expectations weren't very high to begin with regarding social life). Also, if you want to make friends, clubs and societies ain't it. Just my experience. Also, it feels like there's nobody in other halls, oddly dark and quiet.

I don't think your experience is typical. My son's made his closest friends from his society and his course. Are the other halls oddly dark and quiet because everyone's out socialising somewhere else? Have you popped into the campus bars, student union or sport centre? Maybe you need to try some of the more active societies? Push yourself beyond your comfort zone and you might have a better year next year.

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De Montfort University

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Original post by username6340769

We should just admit it. I had a very dull year compared to what I expected (expectations weren't very high to begin with regarding social life). Also, if you want to make friends, clubs and societies ain't it. Just my experience. Also, it feels like there's nobody in other halls, oddly dark and quiet.

Hey there,

I am very sorry that you have had such an experience. However, it is completely different from what I experienced :frown:

As a student who takes education very seriously, I have attended most of the classes and have never noticed an empty building. There is just something always going on, and it gives this feeling of liveliness.
Speaking of student societies and clubs, theses are the vital part of student experience and it is a game changer for most of the people. However, if a person is engaging during the classes and is not afraid of speaking to others outside a classroom, it is inevitable that you will eventually meet people that you would absolutely enjoy socialising with.

Also, I would say that there are always a number of different events going on, so taking part in such events may be an absolute game changer, as you will meet a lot of different lovely people (And also it is fun :biggrin:

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So I would say it really depends on a university and on a student,

Let me know if you have any questions :u:

- Ilya

(edited 8 months ago)

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De Montfort University

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Hi @username6340769 ,
I'm sorry to hear that this year has not been the best for you and that your expectations were not met.
This happens sometimes but you have at least two more years ahead of you and you should make the most of them.
Here are some ways I made really good friends in my first year at DMU :
1.) Become a student ambassador ; working with different people gives you the opportunity to share something in common and potentially build friendships.
2.) Go on a global trip ; when you are travelling in a completely different country the experiences you have with the people you are with usually creates a long lasting bond.
3.) Sign up for day trips ; people from different courses go on these trips and shared experiences tend to bring people together.
4.) Start a study group ; if you spend enough time with people for academic reasons you are most likely going to start spending time together outside of class because you have something in common.
Making friends in societies is one of the easiest ways to socialize but it is not the only way. Be open to socializing even in circumstances you wouldn't usually expect to make friends, such a taking part in volunteering.
Keep an open mind and try things you usually wouldn't. Good luck with second year and I hope it's a little better than your first .

Cece ✨
De Montfort University
Energy Engineering student

(edited 8 months ago)

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