Friends in third year

im returning to a uni i hate this week, where i have no friends at all and no life. im going to need to start making a life out there for myself, but im very very nervous. most of all i want a steady group of friends, but at the least a couple of good connections.

if anyone is in the same boat id love to mentor each other! i think it would really help to have someone in the same position holding me accountable so that im more inclined to actually do things. these things are scary after all. please message if ur interested

also, if ur at st andrews in a similar position...please god let's unionise.

Hi @brakhage582,

I am sorry to hear that you are returning to a university you are not fond of and struggling with friendships. You have made a great start by starting a thread and putting yourself out there, I hope some more people respond!

I am going into my final year too, as I have just finished my placement year a lot of my friends have graduated (mainly my friendship group) so I am worried about making a stable group of friends for my final year onwards too. I do frequently have to remind myself that friendship is about quality and not quantity. A few friends you can rely on is more important than a friendship group you can sort of be yourself with. One great way to find people is by finding people who are similar to you. For example, I like to work hard so I found some friends through a study group that originated from a big course group chat. I remember someone asked if anyone wanted to set up a study group (I said yes) and thats how it all started! One simple message may be all it takes. With time, people dropped out of this and some people joined so you remember that you don't have to be friends with the first few people you meet.

Facebook groups can also be a good way to meet people near you or who are in the same position. This could be your accommodation grouopchat or with people in your area. Your university student room forum may also be another way to meet people.

Have you joined any societies or do any activities outside of university where you have met people or could meet people? At the beginning of the year, societies usually offer taster events which could be a good way to try something new and meet new people (even if you don't end up being friends, at least it is someone else you have gotten to know).

I hope this helps, friendships can be really hard but I hope things work out better for you in your final year!

Alia
University of Kent Student Rep

im returning to a uni i hate this week, where i have no friends at all and no life. im going to need to start making a life out there for myself, but im very very nervous. most of all i want a steady group of friends, but at the least a couple of good connections.

if anyone is in the same boat id love to mentor each other! i think it would really help to have someone in the same position holding me accountable so that im more inclined to actually do things. these things are scary after all. please message if ur interested

also, if ur at st andrews in a similar position...please god let's unionise.