Hate uni
I recently just started university at Northumbria in Newcastle I hate it and want to die I was so excited to go as I went a week later than my friends and my friends Snapchat stories made it look so fun they made such good friends with their flatmates and had tons of parties, they have flatmates of 12 ppl and I only have a flat of 5 my flatmates and me don't get on too well we just are civil in the kitchen so this has massively changed the experience for me I really was hoping to go and have a great time but I'm just depressed lonely and bored I regret going to this uni as the only student accommodation they offer is flats of 5-6 whereas if I'd gone to a university in Manchester I'd have a flat of about 12 which would be much better as there would defo be someone I got along with. I want to drop out and reapply to go to Manchester or liverpool next year as I feel id enjoy it there more but I can't as my parents won't let me
Original post by miawez123
I recently just started university at Northumbria in Newcastle I hate it and want to die I was so excited to go as I went a week later than my friends and my friends Snapchat stories made it look so fun they made such good friends with their flatmates and had tons of parties, they have flatmates of 12 ppl and I only have a flat of 5 my flatmates and me don't get on too well we just are civil in the kitchen so this has massively changed the experience for me I really was hoping to go and have a great time but I'm just depressed lonely and bored I regret going to this uni as the only student accommodation they offer is flats of 5-6 whereas if I'd gone to a university in Manchester I'd have a flat of about 12 which would be much better as there would defo be someone I got along with. I want to drop out and reapply to go to Manchester or liverpool next year as I feel id enjoy it there more but I can't as my parents won't let me
Hi!
I'm sorry to hear about your experience so far. Remember it is still early and there will be other people feeling exactly how you are! While this can be scary, if your flat isn't super social, you may have to try putting yourself out there with others. You could try talking to people in the other flats in your building as there may be others in those flats you click with! I would also recommend joining a society that you are interested in as you will already have things in common with the other people there. Try going to a few taster sessions for some societies as you'll be able to gauge the atmosphere of the society before committing. Also, once your course starts, you will be able to meet lots of people through lectures, seminars etc. You will meet so many people across your time at uni, don't worry about not finding 'your people' in the first few weeks. Of course, if are very unhappy and things don't improve you could try having a conversation with your parents/support service at your uni about your options as they may be able to help find a solution.
Best wishes
Florence (Lancaster University student ambassador)
Original post by miawez123
I recently just started university at Northumbria in Newcastle I hate it and want to die I was so excited to go as I went a week later than my friends and my friends Snapchat stories made it look so fun they made such good friends with their flatmates and had tons of parties, they have flatmates of 12 ppl and I only have a flat of 5 my flatmates and me don't get on too well we just are civil in the kitchen so this has massively changed the experience for me I really was hoping to go and have a great time but I'm just depressed lonely and bored I regret going to this uni as the only student accommodation they offer is flats of 5-6 whereas if I'd gone to a university in Manchester I'd have a flat of about 12 which would be much better as there would defo be someone I got along with. I want to drop out and reapply to go to Manchester or liverpool next year as I feel id enjoy it there more but I can't as my parents won't let me
Hey Mia,
I am so sorry to hear that you are not enjoying your time at Northumbria so far and are not getting on with your flat but there are plenty of other ways to make friends!
For example we have our be part of it events: https://www.northumbria.ac.uk/about-us/be-part-of-it/ which you can attend and meet likeminded people as well as a variety of societies you can join.
If you are really not liking your flat, could you ask if it is possible to move to another flat?- when my friend was in first year she was in a similar situation and moving flats made her much happier but I appreciate that it depends on which accommodation you're staying at.
If you feel like you need any more support please look here: https://www.northumbria.ac.uk/study-at-northumbria/support-for-students/student-life-and-wellbeing/ but also feel free to ask me any questions you may have as I have been a new student at Northumbria myself and know how overwhelming it can be.
I hope this helps
Beth
Northumbria University UG rep
it will get better. Join some societies and socialise with people you have a common interest with eg. Hill walking or chess etc. Your flatmates are just random people who have been thrown into living in the same space as you - you did not choose them and there is no rule stating that you should get along with them or vice versa. If your friends were lucky enough to find flatmates they get along with, good for them.
Original post by miawez123
I recently just started university at Northumbria in Newcastle I hate it and want to die I was so excited to go as I went a week later than my friends and my friends Snapchat stories made it look so fun they made such good friends with their flatmates and had tons of parties, they have flatmates of 12 ppl and I only have a flat of 5 my flatmates and me don't get on too well we just are civil in the kitchen so this has massively changed the experience for me I really was hoping to go and have a great time but I'm just depressed lonely and bored I regret going to this uni as the only student accommodation they offer is flats of 5-6 whereas if I'd gone to a university in Manchester I'd have a flat of about 12 which would be much better as there would defo be someone I got along with. I want to drop out and reapply to go to Manchester or liverpool next year as I feel id enjoy it there more but I can't as my parents won't let me
Why are your parents a factor in what university you want to attend? Sounds controlling to me.
Original post by miawez123
I recently just started university at Northumbria in Newcastle I hate it and want to die I was so excited to go as I went a week later than my friends and my friends Snapchat stories made it look so fun they made such good friends with their flatmates and had tons of parties, they have flatmates of 12 ppl and I only have a flat of 5 my flatmates and me don't get on too well we just are civil in the kitchen so this has massively changed the experience for me I really was hoping to go and have a great time but I'm just depressed lonely and bored I regret going to this uni as the only student accommodation they offer is flats of 5-6 whereas if I'd gone to a university in Manchester I'd have a flat of about 12 which would be much better as there would defo be someone I got along with. I want to drop out and reapply to go to Manchester or liverpool next year as I feel id enjoy it there more but I can't as my parents won't let me
Hi @miawez123,
Im sorry to hear you’re not enjoying your experience so far! Remember to take it easy on yourself and be patient.
It is still early days, and more than likely you and your flat mates will be feeling the same way. It is very easy to compare your situation to others, especially nowadays, so try not to as this may be hindering your own motivation to get yourself out there! Perhaps, if you haven’t already, you could start up a group chat for your flat and get chatting. You could plan something like a night out or something to do in the city together. When I was in first year I made sure I started the group chat and asked for everyone’s birthdays and bought a calendar for the kitchen to make them all down. This way I could see if anyone’s birthday was coming so we had an excuse for a party! Additionally, it could be a good idea to have a look at some clubs or societies you can get involved in through the university
I hope this helps, and don’t forget to be patient - you can do this!
Ellie
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