genuine advice please. i love my boyfriend and he’s my first long term relationship. however, there’s been a lot of bumps in the road. we have been together for 6 months. he dated a girl a year ago for 2 months who was older than him and he said he loved her after like a week, and they practised a lot of sex together. he was 15. i can’t help but think i can’t compare even though she cheated on him. he claims to hate her but i doubt it because he was obsessed with her until he met me basically. i see so many things that he does to me that reflect that. for example, he insists and pressures me into having anal sex which was her favourite although it causes me pain and makes me cry. he never buys me gifts or things, only plushies he knows i have no interest in. i have asked for cheap flowers but he never gets them. but he was able to buy his ex shirts and earrings and gifts when she was mad even though he only knew her 2 months. he treats me very well outside of these things but there’s a lot of inconsistencies in his stories. he claimed i was his “first love” but he’s said “i love you” to both of his exes, including his last obsession. he loves emo girls, (i used to be goth but now im very basic and girly) and his ex was emo. he says his type has changed but everytime we are getting ready he tries to get me to wear dark colours etc. he mentions her randomly, like i’ll say a name, and he will say hers, thinking that’s what i said, or he will compare them to tom and summer from 500 days of summer. he is a very kind, loving boy, and his family really loves me, but i genuinely don’t know what he thinks of me. he has said random girls look like her before. i just don’t know what to do. i love him but we fight so often and im very insecure and don’t quite trust him after she messaged him while we were together and he refused to block her to “prevent arguments.”
what do i do? don’t suggest breaking up, that wont happen, i love him too much and he is a part of my life. i’ve talked to him and he admitted me loved her but he doesn’t anymore but i don’t believe him.