Hi,
So I do smoke weed once in a while. I don't normally mind the smell but my flatmate is just absolutely insane. She smokes like 2-3 times a week which is fair but REFUSES to open windows in her flat and also smokes in the kitchen. It absolutely reeks.
I know someone who loves in the dorm above me and they say they can smell it in their flat which is insane. My room just SMELLS. I don't mind the smell but when it's invading my personal space enough is enough yk?
Keeping in mind I have spoken to this flatmate about slamming the door to the flat (it shakes my whole wall and causes damage to things I have up) and have not been the most sociable roommate (its not that i dont like them, its that im literally living with strangers and have no interest in them at all). How can I tell them to open a ******* window without coming off as THAT flatmate??
Am I in the wrong here too? I just feel like it's wrong to walk up and down the hallway, blunt in hand. They also lean against my door and bang on it sometimes. I struggle with it a lot, but I don't know if anyone else in my flat has a problem with it and I know they already talk about me for being the 'quiet weird one'. I have friends, im just autistic and I am burnt out during the nights, which is when I normally see them.
LIKE- I don't want to come off like im exaggerating here. I have to study, I don't wanna be huffing ur ******* fumes while I'm trying to get **** done, but I don't wanna be THAT flatmate that always has a problem with peoples personal ****. But it's like YOUR decision to smoke, not mine. Can I just get peoples opinions on this? Am I in the wrong? I knew moving in that people would smoke weed but to not open a window and to walk up and down the hallway with it to the point that people upstairs can smell it just feels really weird.