"Dating" similar to what we see here in the "Western-world" does not exist among Muslims. the general misconception is that the only alternative to this method and the method used by Muslims is an "arranged marriage" but this isn't the case, the most common method does have similarities and friends and family may assist in arranging matches,
but the final decision is left up to the couple.
The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime. It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones. It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.
There are certain social norms that facilitate this method, Muslims form very close bonds between same-sex friends ("brothers" and "sisters") who can recommend partners if they think there is a suitability. Parents and other family members might also do the same. This could lead eventually to a meeting between the potential couple and see if the click, so to speak.
the things they take into account are different for each gender, a man is advised to look for a potential wife who fears Allaah (swt), is righteous and patient (among other qualities). The moral character of the woman is considered far more important than her looks or wealth.
The final step would be for the individuals to pray "
salat al-istikharaa" and from there on the couple would either agree to pursue marriage or part ways; the freedom of choice to both the young man and woman is preserved, they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want.
Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. This type of focused courtship helps ensure the strength of the marriage, by drawing upon family elders' wisdom and guidance in this important life decision. That is why these marriages often prove successful in the long-term.