I found out he has a girlfriend - what do I do!?! So I met a guy a few weeks ago. He's originally from my area but currently lives in London for work - he's very successful. We really hit it off and I thought he was the best thing since sliced bread. I'm no stranger to one-night stands and given that I knew he lived in another city I decided to just go for it. He did kiss me first but we ended up going back to mine. I had a fantastic night and it didn't feel like a casual thing for me. To be blunt, I really liked him. His ambition and drive were a strong attraction for me as I'm a budding business person myself. He was like no other guy I'd met my age (mid-twenties). But I did give myself a reality check and accepted I may not see him again. I told him outright that I would like to see him again but appreciate if that's not practical. He asked for my number, was affectionate and sweet, then left.
*In the few weeks since then he has been messaging me and generally asking me how things are going, telling me about his day, but definitely being flirtatious and making comments about wishing he were here etc. I was pleasantly surprised and excited when he asked if I would like to catch up this weekend (he was visiting family). We didn't make firm plans but were chatting on Fri night. When I contacted him yesterday morning to make arrangements he basically didn't reply. Alarm bells were ringing and I was really disappointed that he didn't follow through with wanting to see me - after all it was his suggestion, not mine!
*Then I get the bombshell. Curiosity killed the cat and I went on his FB (not friends - just searched his name) to show my housemate a photo. To cut to the chase I discovered that he has a long-term girlfriend and they are definitely still together - she had just posted from his house this evening.
*I've had a bit of time to digest this and my mind and heart are in a right tizz! I feel hurt, foolish, stupid, betrayed, and incredibly guilty. It's worse than just being blown off - he's actually a complete scumbag and getting away with it unashamedly. He just doesn't seem the type at all and I am so shocked. I've decided not to be reactionary and just wait until he gets in touch which will likely be soon. I have realised that he means trouble and there is no positive way forward.
*But what I am really struggling with is what is the right thing to do given that I now know this? Confront him? Ask him if he's single and give him the opportunity to fess up? What about her? Do I leave it or do I say something? I just don't know!
*What if you were her? Would you want to be told? It's making me feel sick but I want to act out of what is right and not out of anger so an outside perspective would be appreciated!