Hiya
Found this forum while searching in google "I am a virgin I hate my life". I wound up here.
I'm 21 straight male, I work out(without going over the top), I dress nicely. It seems all I can do well at is my career, and I'm okay with my studies (film). But I can't take any joy from these things because my head is doing this
while I am doing this
trying to get a girl. Going around in circles. What value can I see in living my life if I have nobody to share it with?
I want a relationship. (Please don't respond with - "oh maybe you're just getting too attached", I would also like random-sex too. I just need to do it at least one for god's sake. A relationship would be great but my God can't you understand the pain I'm going through?)
My brain (and other areas) are really starting to hurt, thinking about this. Everyone else is having these
grand problems with their partners like "oh dear oh my, he doesn't last long enough"
"oh gosh his penis was bla bla bla size-description"
"oh I just had too much sex the other night it hurts now."
I can't even get close to that stage yet.
I mean I can flirt pretty well. I have a lot of attractive female friends and I can flirt with them the whole night. One of them came back to my house last night and just went to bed and to sleep. Didn't even get a kiss! I see some of my friends who are too afraid to even talk to girls, and THEY have had sex! I have had nothing!
I don't want to sound desperate. But that is exactly what I am. I don't want to just throw it away. Frankly I don't think I would even know how to throw it away. I've never done it once in 21 years.
ARGH
I don't think I am ugly. I've asked a couple of girls and they say I'm attractive, that my looks are not the problem. But the only leeway I ever get is
"You have to be honest with a girl"
"you have to be tender and loving and buy her shoes"
Well anyone can do that stuff. That's the obvious answer. But what's after that. What makes me special enough to sleep with.
ARGH
After 6 years of trying non-stop I'm still here alone. Nobody wants me. And I swear if someone says "you just haven't found that special person yet" I will break a window. Everyone else is having sex regardless of wether its a 'special someone' or not. RIDONKULOUS!
I feel like I'm living a surrealists wet dream. My world is completely upside down. I have been in so many situations where I was an inch away of finally having sex and something absolutely ridonkulous gets in the way. I feel like Sisyphus pushing the boulder up the hill. I work and I work and I work at it. Eventually I get pretty close. And then it just goes to pieces and I have to start all over again.
When my friends tell me about all the sex they're having, good sex, bad sex, problems in sex I just get so depressed knowing I have nothing to bring to the table. Girls talk to me about their sex problems. All I can give is advice on what sounds like the right answer but never having experiencing it I can't even talk to them about having even done it once. INSERT SWEARWORD HERE.
And I want to do it properly. I don't want to go to a brothel (I might have to if I don't have sex by the time I'm 40). I want to be a part of this gang thats having sex and worrying about things and having issues with sex-related items.
Please help me. Please please please. My life is in ruins because of it. this forum makes me depressed seeing all the other people who have queries about their sex. I just wish I could understand!
With all this stress I could have a heart-attack tomorrow.
I'm willing to try anything