I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We did long distance the whole way through uni and everything was so fantastic, I've never been happier. I really thought we were going to go the whole way: moving in together, marriage, kids.
I think somewhere along the line, a few months ago, we just got lazy with our relationship. Some big things happened in my life (graduation, passing driving test, new job, company car) all within a few weeks of each other. Communication just seemed to break down. We used to talk about absolutely everything and he was my best friend, but it just seemed to tail off :/ He stopped ever texting me back, he didn't ask me how things went after I'd had job interviews/driving test/graduation. I thought he wasn't interested in me anymore and we drifted apart a lot.
On Christmas eve I finally brought all this up with him and I kind of expected us to break up at the end of this talk. To my surprise (because he'd seemed so disinterested in me for months), he was devastated I was considering breaking up with him. He cried and begged that I didn't end it. I agreed I wanted to give our relationship a chance, but now I'm wondering if I made the right decision. I just don't feel the same way about him that I once did. I really want to but I just can't. I've totally gone off sex and being intimate with him. I love him, but in more of a 'friend' way. He's such an amazing guy, so kind and sensitive, so its killing me that I just don't seem to love him like I did
Little ridiculous things have started to annoy me, such as the way he's so indecisive and I have to make all the decisions, sometimes he's clingy on nights out, how he can't ever chill out and relax and is always worrying about something, that he doesn't like dogs and can't handle my families new puppy.....
It was my birthday yesterday and he bought me a dress costing £130. I feel so bad! It didn't fit and we're exchanging it (and I really didn't like it to be honest) but it really is the thought that counts!!! It was really thoughtful and inside I'm having all these feelings about breaking up with him. There's another guy I know as well who I kind of like and I feel so terrible for thinking about this other guy in that way when I already have a great boyfriend.
I'm so torn and don't know what to do
Do I try and salvage my relationship or will I be dragging it out and wasting my time?
I feel so sad.