Do you consider this to be "slutty" or "easy"?
My boyfriend and I broke up officially about a year ago, and got back together and broke up again on subsequent occasions and broke it off properly over Christmas, and decided to just be friends. During this time, I became fond of someone else and we established a sexual relationship together, which my ex recently found out about (he asked, and I didn't want to lie).
Since then, he says that I am turning into an "easy" person and "slutty" and that I am decreasing my worth as a person by having sex with someone without having established a formal relationship with them. He also threatens to not talk to me ever again if I continue to maintain this kind of relationship with him because in his words, "I am doing with someone who doesn't deserve it what he always wanted to do with me".
Whilst I can understand his last point, I think that my private life is after all, my private life and that I should be able to decide who I engage with sex with and who I don't. I realise that having sex with whom you haven't established a relationship is more "liberal" than having sex with a partner, but it doesn't mean that I would have sex with any old person, nor do it without restraint or without thinking about it beforehand. Am I really a "whore" and just trying to justify myself by thinking this, or is it OK for one's personal view of sexuality to change as we grow up, and is it a mature decision? Thank you