When do people make good friends?

It's week three tomorrow and i'm meeting a few people and talking to them (i'm shy so it's hard for me to talk to people, but i am trying). A lot are really nice, but it's usually always small talk so they leave and move on to talk to someone else the next day.
Societies started last week and i went to three. One was okay, the other was completely silent and no one talked and the other was a party so it was impossible to talk, and everyone was drunk so it was meaningless talk.
I'm a little scared i won't be able to make friends. I know good friends takes time, but when i walk past loads of groups of people i start to panic.

Reply 1

Unununium

it actually doesn't take as long as you'd think to make close friends, because you are all spending so much time together.

I met my best friend in the first week, a few weeks later we were inseparable and now we live together =)

Reply 2

mizzyman

I wouldn't worry too much. I am sure you will make friends very soon. I find that after I speak to someone one to one, it makes me feel much more comfortable to talk to them again. Dunno if you are the same though. :smile:

Reply 3

username533239

I'm in a similar position to you at the moment, not sure who to stick with etc

Reply 4

katyness

Original post by Unununium

Exactly this! I was enjoying my music when my now best friend interrupted me to tag along with me. At first I was well annoyed and I thought she was going to be boring but now we're inseparable!

It usually takes time or sometimes it doesn't. Just put yourself out there :smile:

never?

Dont worry, just talk to people... Try and be brave and go up to people and introduce yourself :smile:

Smile lots and look happy too - it helps!

Reply 7

Origami Bullets

It's a gradual thing - you meet people and become friends with them over a period of time - some faster, some slower. You're never going to make instant friends - acquaintances, yes, but actual friendship takes time to develop.

Carry on with the societies for a while - they can often be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your university career, but you can't tell what they're really going to be like when you've only been once.