How do I get over him? I want him so much.

Call him, tell him how you feel and ask him why he's turned cold and what he wants. If it goes well then you can get back together, if not then move on, plenty more fish dear

He pursued me but now he does not make effort anymore. I want him so badly though. I know I can make him happy. We were so happy. We never even dated but he just turned cold on me. I wish he would tell me why. We cuddled in bed, hugged, talked, laughed, cried. It happened over a short space of time but he made me feel so alive, so happy, so confident and free. Then he lost interest. We didn't sleep together because I thought we should take things slow. He doesn't want me It is driving me insane. Every day I think of ways to get him back. But nothing works. I can't move on.

Pursue him?

Move on. You can't make someone want to be with you.

I begged him to tell me why he changed. He gave me vague excuses. He still flirts very occasionally which is wy I still have hope. But I have never wanted a guy so much. It doesn't feel that any guy out there can compare to him right now.

Trust me I have. I have made a total fool of myself. He won't budge. But he still replies to my texts, says kind things and rarely flirts. But he is not asking me out anymore or asking to come and see me or helping me with my problems or saying he wants to cuddle. It hurts but he won't tell me why

I had this recently, I moved on and now he wants me back saying that he went cold because he realised we were getting close and didn't want to get hurt again (bad last relationship). I'm not sure if I believe him though. Things happened between us to soon and I'm uncertain as to if he genuinely wants me or is just missing those things. But I'm also reluctant to believe him because he dropped me so easily after everything that happened between us.

I'd recommend just moving on - easier said than done, I know. But remove him from facebook so you don't have to see his face, stop talking to him and focus on other things (friends/family/work/education). I was lucky in that I found someone new who put me off the original guy - I wouldn't recommend activly looking for someone though - that can lead to mistakes.

If he's going to come back, he will. And if not than you're better off without him.

Yeah, I did this, I pursued lots of girls at uni for the chase, but when I knew she wanted me, I didn't want her anymore, it all seemed to easy. I guess I wasn't ready to commit to anything as well? Are you at uni, maybe he's not looking for a relationship, that way you'll have to convince him.

Lies Harriet, your not even hawt though!?

I was worried this was it, the thrill of the chase. I know he found me attractive but not sure if he even liked me as anything more. I just feel so confused. It hurts that I might have been nothing more than a conquest to him. I mean we didnt sleep together but other stuff happened. Am hoping if I ignore him for a few days he will miss me, maybe the whole him wanting what he can't have may come into play. I am at uni, he graduated last year and is now working....