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Does real friendship exist?

Right, so I think I'm a good friend but my life experience has always shown me that perhaps true friendship doesn't really exist. I've had a couple of friends in the past but something always seem to go wrong. There was this girl I used to call my BFF, we were so close and I thought nothing could break our friendship, that's until her boyfriend came into the picture and she totally forgot about me. Then I befriended this guy, we were so close people actually thought we were dating but to me he was nothing but my best friend, after a couple of years of great friendship I realised that all he wanted was to get in my pants. Then I thought you know what? Screw this whole bestfriend thing let me start hangin out with groups of girls. It had that girlfriends, sex in the city and what not "feel" but guess what? It was nothing but drama. He said she said, they said, Gossip here and there. No Thanks!!! Then I met this girl who was my TOTAL opposite, I actually didn't like her at first but then we bounded and we just seemed to be acting crazy together..we went through the worst struggles together and that's what got us close but then our difference came in the way, and we don't seem to get along so much but we love eachother and can't live without one another and thats why I see her more like a sister. I know friends can argue and stuff but I'm just wondering, is there really friendships where two girls do everything together, tell eachother everything, there's no fakery, no backstabbing, no drama.. just pure love, loyalty, peace and appreciation?

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Reply 1

Ladders

When you are an adult and you socialise with adults, it gets better.

Reply 2

judiek12

Original post by Ladders

When you are an adult and you socialise with adults, it gets better.

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I guess you're right :smile:

Reply 3

The_Student123

Yes! I am experiencing this at the moment from the last 4 years :smile:

real friendship does exist. We're like superglue lol. You just gotta find the right one though, no fakes, no liars or backstabbers :biggrin:

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Reply 4

judiek12

Original post by The_Student123

Yes! I am experiencing this at the moment from the last 4 years :smile:

real friendship does exist. We're like superglue lol. You just gotta find the right one though, no fakes, no liars or backstabbers :biggrin:

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yeaa yr right :smile:

thanks

Reply 5

noone29

I don't like this whole 'friends' thing. It's in human nature to be selfish and care mainly about yourself. I'm not saying people purposely operate in this way, it's natural. So when you've had the wool pulled over your eyes that friends are there forever, it's *******s. Yes, you can talk to friends and chat rubbish, but when push comes to shove, we're all selfish. Whether that's finding love, going after our careers trying to make it big or simply wanting time alone.

Moral of the story, think of friends as an accessory to your life rather than the story of your life.

Reply 6

noone29

Really? Admittedly I'm quite focused on my career goals and I'm happy to meet people but there's a fine line between work and play. I do care very much about my family, especially as they gave me the solid foundations when I was younger (esp. as my dad did a runner lol).

Too many people think friends are going to be there forever, and 90% of the time they won't. So focus on yourself, have your friends there to chat to but never get so close that you'll be upset if they disappeared tomorrow.

That's what I do. (or maybe because I didn't have that security of two parents when I was younger has given me a steel shell? I'm not sure lol)

Reply 7

TheWalkinDude

Some friends are with you always, others are just there while the ride is fun.

You have to learn to differentiate.

Reply 8

judiek12

Original post by TheWalkinDude

Some friends are with you always, others are just there while the ride is fun.

You have to learn to differentiate.

True talks... the "with you always" type of friends are surely hard to find doe.

Reply 9

TheWalkinDude

Original post by judiek12

True talks... the "with you always" type of friends are surely hard to find doe.

Incredibly. There's a reason I'm sitting here drinking Jager mixed with water. Some people expect the same amount of loyalty back that they put into friendships. Others do not.

Reply 10

MsFahima

Me and my bestfriend have been together for almost 10 years. We have had little arguments but that doesn't break us up. It's unfortunate that we are going into different colleges. But we will still meet up!

So according to me, real friendship does exist, you just need the right person!

Reply 11

judiek12

Original post by TheWalkinDude

Incredibly. There's a reason I'm sitting here drinking Jager mixed with water. Some people expect the same amount of loyalty back that they put into friendships. Others do not.

Lol this actually made me laugh out loud

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Reply 12

judiek12

Original post by MsFahima

good for you.. i hope it carries on :smile:

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Reply 13

TheWalkinDude

Original post by judiek12

Lol this actually made me laugh out loud

Haha! Honest to god, jager and water is a surprisingly good mix. But yeah, I know there are some friends from my hometown who are with me forever. Some at my uni, good friends, but not BFFs; if you know what I mean :smile:

Reply 14

TheWalkinDude

About the same as a Jagerbomb. Bit bland in taste, but easily drinkable. Almost like whisky and soda water.

The reason? I have friends I would trust with my life from my home town. Admittedly, I've known them for longer, but friends at uni seem to have a grasp of friendship that is far more superficial than I'm used to. If I'm your friend then you know it, if you aren't... Then you also know it.

Reply 15

judiek12

Original post by TheWalkinDude

Jager and water , i'll remember that :wink:

and yea I know exactly what you mean.

Reply 16

Floalley

I have an amazing group of friends atm, we rarely fight (if we do it's not serious) and each one of them are lovely lovely people that I love. Out of the 6 closest, 4 of them are in relationships, and it has never really caused problems.

These past two years have been so lovely after the drama filled 4 years I went through in high school. We're all separating for university and I'm going to miss them like crazy.

Reply 17

jonsii

Its does you got to be good friend to find good friends. Have you been good to your friends? I have few friends but they love me so do I..we care about each other of-course we have our own problems and life to deal with..we share we grow. Its not all lovely sun shine as it sounds here but true friendship does exist.