What are you most scared about for when you start university?

Do you know her? Personally I think she's capable of an 80 and a full social life.



What? She has to overcome an issue with confidence in social situations by writing? This seems somewhat like advising someone who struggles with exams to sort that problem by practising coursework loads.

I don't know, I imagine it probably isn't pointless. It's very difficult to study for 3 years without some kind of end result, they're usually referred to as 'Finals'


In her academic ability maybe, how will it help her to speak to people more easily?

I've decided to throw myself in the deep end by moving into halls, and hoping it'll shock my system enough to turn it around. But I'm still worried, I visited my boyfriend for a couple of weeks and he took me out a few times with his friends, I tried really hard to socialize but out of the whole to weeks I barely strung together 1 or two sentences with his friends :/ and that was me in a pretty safe and controlled environment with someone I know (boyfriend) so how I'll react in a couple of weeks when I move in I have no idea.

Good luck to you, hope you overcome it.

Don't worry about it, even the most sociable people are nervous about Freshers!

Also you'll find that people take much more effort, and have much more time given you live together, to get to know you at uni, as they're more mature. This includes even the most outgoing people, I know I certainly wouldn't have taken the time to get to know a couple of my housemates at school, but I did at uni and they're now 2 of my best mates, I'm so glad I did

And don't worry about that, it's much more awkward going out in a group that all already know each other than where you're all meeting for the first time. The first time I went out with my gf and her mates was definitely more difficult than Freshers!

Home sickness mainly (since I am from Guernsey, not the mainland). Of course living independently and trying to make friends with the people I am living with also plague my mind. Oh and then there is money and I could go on!

Don't worry about it, even the most sociable people are nervous about Freshers!

Also you'll find that people take much more effort, and have much more time given you live together, to get to know you at uni, as they're more mature. This includes even the most outgoing people, I know I certainly wouldn't have taken the time to get to know a couple of my housemates at school, but I did at uni and they're now 2 of my best mates, I'm so glad I did

And don't worry about that, it's much more awkward going out in a group that all already know each other than where you're all meeting for the first time. The first time I went out with my gf and her mates was definitely more difficult than Freshers!

Hey! I'm super nervous about getting homesick too (I'm really close to my mum!), I'm from the mainland but not close enough to the uni to travel home whenever I want! Are you going for the cold turkey method of not really contacting home much at the start or going to be skyping often? I can't decide!

Home sickness mainly (since I am from Guernsey, not the mainland). Of course living independently and trying to make friends with the people I am living with also plague my mind. Oh and then there is money and I could go on!

Do you know her? Personally I think she's capable of an 80 and a full social life.

What? She has to overcome an issue with confidence in social situations by writing? This seems somewhat like advising someone who struggles with exams to sort that problem by practising coursework loads.

I don't know, I imagine it probably isn't pointless. It's very difficult to study for 3 years without some kind of end result, they're usually referred to as 'Finals'

In her academic ability maybe, how will it help her to speak to people more easily?

Social skills you muppet.

In all seriousness, how on earth do you not see how social skills are important in working life? What about if you need to work in a team to produce a product? What if you need to lead other workers? What if you have to teach? Give presentations?

Regardless of how well I do on my degree and how good of a grade I come out with, if I were to walk into the interview with no social skills and clearly anxious and nervous I would not likely get the job, even if I did get the job I may not even be able to handle it and work well as I may find my job hard if I need to work with others.

You don't understand how women treat me..

I've had women tell me not to look at them or talk to them - women i never knew or harmed or did wrong to, and i look normal/ smell normal.

I've had women stand next to me, then when they are about to make a convo look at me and look away and desist from talking to me.

It's torture. If it were not for my family being left behind, i wouldn't have a reason to live tbh. It's upsetting to say the least.

Full? what like girlfriend and sex before marriage

It will be more unnecessary hassle to her

It depends on what she is doing

She knew she had this problem, she should have chosen something else

I rather have good degree, employers do not care, admission tutors do not care they want money not intimate flirting

Thanks for the encouragement I know everyone will probably be a bit nervous but it's just the extent to how anxious I get

You're braver than me, I specifically chose the uni in my hometown so I could stay living at home. I am the same, I cannot speak in front of a group of people, even if I know them all!

Thanks, good luck to you too!

I wish universities had societies for just socially anxious people like us.

Yeah, that's a full social life, pretty much what I meant, only lesbians can have them.



One of those myriad degrees with no presentation or viva element?




Ah yeah, I forgot employers are only interested in how good I was at studying the intricacies of a post modern interpretation of the character of Gatsby in the eponymous novel or how well I analysed the parlous financial state of the Icelandic economy in the late 1950s.... A good degree's the minimum, employers want so much more.



No worries, you'll be fine Make sure to prop your door open, no matter how much you may wish to close it, then people will come to you and you'll get involved in stuff, it was my mate's (who also struggled before uni with social stuff) top tip.

Yeah, that's a full social life, pretty much what I meant, only lesbians can have them.

One of those myriad degrees with no presentation or viva element?

Ah yeah, I forgot employers are only interested in how good I was at studying the intricacies of a post modern interpretation of the character of Gatsby in the eponymous novel or how well I analysed the parlous financial state of the Icelandic economy in the late 1950s.... A good degree's the minimum, employers want so much more.

Thank you I'll try the door thing

Hey, that is upsetting! You have tonnes of reasons to live don't be so hard on yourself , there are so many horrible people about but it's their loss (plus anyone who treats a person like that definitely doesn't deserve your friendship anyway!). Keep your chin up and I bet you'll make friends at uni in no time, you sound like a decent guy so just go for it!

"Always take a banana to a party" rule, and this will result in them sellotaping bananas to your wardrobe.

Hey, a free banana wouldn't go amiss. Besides, I'm going to Cardiff, what if I encounter some aliens and need to bluff my way out?