Will the heartache ever go away?
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Original post by when she was 22
Definitely 
it seems like it will never end or never possibly be ok at the time but trust me (and everyone else) you will stop hurting! You'll feel better again someday, slowly but surely! I promise.
it seems like it will never end or never possibly be ok at the time but trust me (and everyone else) you will stop hurting! You'll feel better again someday, slowly but surely! I promise.
Thank you. I hope so I really do x
Original post by Kellyxo
It's so weird to read you write that because that is everything that crosses my mind. I get so angry because he also promised me he wouldn't leave, promised me that he would never treat me as badly as he had treated his previous because he learnt his lesson and never had feelings like this for anybody. I guess you're right and right about not taking him back, I couldn't put myself through the pain again. Too much x
Yeah I could tell from your OP that you were in a similar situation. I think the only way for you to get this heartbroken is if promises were made that you depended on and emotionally leaned on, and then broken without much of a bat of an eyelid while you're left there in a sort of shock thinking: "how did this happen"??... even though there were plenty of signs it was coming you chose to believe the good things he promised rather than listen to the signs that you saw in the actions that he made.
Original post by Dragonfly07
Yeah I could tell from your OP that you were in a similar situation. I think the only way for you to get this heartbroken is if promises were made that you depended on and emotionally leaned on, and then broken without much of a bat of an eyelid while you're left there in a sort of shock thinking: "how did this happen"??... even though there were plenty of signs it was coming you chose to believe the good things he promised rather than listen to the signs that you saw in the actions that he made.
Wow. So true. I knew it was coming, things weren't working between us, but like you said- I chose to ignore the signs. It's my own fault I guess, I should have got out of the relationship the first minute things started to change then I wouldn't have the heartbreak of being cheated on x
I get hurt because I knew I never had a chance in the first place :/
I know exactly how you feel, my heartbreak is totally smothering me.
I started dating a guy July 2012 and I never even thought it would be a serious relationship. However I lost my virginity to him and I fell head over heels in love with him and we were so close, we used to say we were 2 halves of the same person.
Then he left me in May 2013 and I was totally distraught until we got back together in August 2013. We both knew he was going to uni that September and he said he thought everything through and I was all he wanted and he'd never hurt me again.
But then uni seemed to change him and he left me in November.
A month later he told me he wanted me back but blocked me from absolutely every form of communication a week later.
The thing is though i'm going to the same uni in September and he only went there cos he knew I wanted to go and we'd be together there -.-
Wow i've written way too much but I guess i'm trying to say you're not alone, we've all been ****ed over and as much as we love the other person we need to find the strength to move on.
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I started dating a guy July 2012 and I never even thought it would be a serious relationship. However I lost my virginity to him and I fell head over heels in love with him and we were so close, we used to say we were 2 halves of the same person.
Then he left me in May 2013 and I was totally distraught until we got back together in August 2013. We both knew he was going to uni that September and he said he thought everything through and I was all he wanted and he'd never hurt me again.
But then uni seemed to change him and he left me in November.
A month later he told me he wanted me back but blocked me from absolutely every form of communication a week later.
The thing is though i'm going to the same uni in September and he only went there cos he knew I wanted to go and we'd be together there -.-
Wow i've written way too much but I guess i'm trying to say you're not alone, we've all been ****ed over and as much as we love the other person we need to find the strength to move on.
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Original post by Dragonfly07
You're in exactly the same situation as me. Also 1.5 months since breakup. Also first love/first person I trusted. Are you still in contact with him?
Im in the same boat too
he did it on my birthday. I can't stop blaming myself..If I wasn't depressed he'd still be here 
It takes time but it will get better. I'd say I don't feel any pain from my last relationship anymore (almost a year ago) even though it was agony for a few months and difficult up until the end of august I'd say.
You'll probably always have a soft spot/reminisce the good times and maybe even feel a pang of disappointment of having lost someone you were so close to, but it's nowhere near as bad as the first few months and in all honesty I don't really think about him that often anymore. Just stay positive and surround yourself with people who love you and it will get better, honest.
You'll probably always have a soft spot/reminisce the good times and maybe even feel a pang of disappointment of having lost someone you were so close to, but it's nowhere near as bad as the first few months and in all honesty I don't really think about him that often anymore. Just stay positive and surround yourself with people who love you and it will get better, honest.
Original post by puella_optima
Im in the same boat too he did it on my birthday. I can't stop blaming myself..If I wasn't depressed he'd still be here
he did it on my birthday. I can't stop blaming myself..If I wasn't depressed he'd still be here Sucks. I say the same. I was depressed too, changed as a person- pushed him away and not a day goes by that I don't blame myself x
I wouldnt say the pain ever fully goes away, it's always there, but with time the feeling of the pain gets muted. And when you think about that person and of the memories it's always bittersweet because you think of the good and the bad ones. But I suppose the measure of it really depends on how long you and that person were together for.
My last relationship started off incredible. Doing everything together, partying, just being perfectly happy in each others company and it was a wonderful time really. But I got really depressed for quite some time and I couldnt shake it off and it really affected our relationship. So, we mutually ended what we had. I was devastated, of course. The real kick in the teeth was a month later she started seeing one of my close mates and they've been in a relationship since. About 5 months or so now. So having to see them and socialise with them, as we all have the same circle of friends, has been really tough.
So yeah, having to emotionally deal with depression, the breakup and then them two getting together was just blow after blow really. But you know, I'm a strong guy, best thing I've found is to remove all negativity from you're life and surround yourself with positivity. You can sit all day and think about the million other ways things could have worked out, but it's a waste of time really and you've just got to dust yourself down, stand on you're own two feet and focus on yourself. Start enjoying life again and enjoying who you are and sharing that with everyone that loves/likes/respects you.
When you think in a broader perspective, deep down you'll realise that that he or she was never 'the one' and you're yet to meet that person. Once you acknowledge and accept that it should provide you with a platform to pick up the pieces and move on. But in the end day you've got to smile, it's all life experience and very crucial. I've learned so much from my last relationship and I'm sure you have too.
Keep you're chin up and stay positive
My last relationship started off incredible. Doing everything together, partying, just being perfectly happy in each others company and it was a wonderful time really. But I got really depressed for quite some time and I couldnt shake it off and it really affected our relationship. So, we mutually ended what we had. I was devastated, of course. The real kick in the teeth was a month later she started seeing one of my close mates and they've been in a relationship since. About 5 months or so now. So having to see them and socialise with them, as we all have the same circle of friends, has been really tough.
So yeah, having to emotionally deal with depression, the breakup and then them two getting together was just blow after blow really. But you know, I'm a strong guy, best thing I've found is to remove all negativity from you're life and surround yourself with positivity. You can sit all day and think about the million other ways things could have worked out, but it's a waste of time really and you've just got to dust yourself down, stand on you're own two feet and focus on yourself. Start enjoying life again and enjoying who you are and sharing that with everyone that loves/likes/respects you.
When you think in a broader perspective, deep down you'll realise that that he or she was never 'the one' and you're yet to meet that person. Once you acknowledge and accept that it should provide you with a platform to pick up the pieces and move on. But in the end day you've got to smile, it's all life experience and very crucial. I've learned so much from my last relationship and I'm sure you have too.
Keep you're chin up and stay positive
Original post by puella_optima
Im in the same boat too he did it on my birthday. I can't stop blaming myself..If I wasn't depressed he'd still be here
he did it on my birthday. I can't stop blaming myself..If I wasn't depressed he'd still be here I'm so sorry. Don't blame yourself, you can never help how you feel. If people could help their feelings then the world would be a very ideal place. It might seem like everything is doom and gloom now and it probably sounds awful when people say it'll get better but it really, really will. Just as long as you accept it and don't ever think of getting back in the relationship even if you think there's a chance.
Original post by Kellyxo
Sucks. I say the same. I was depressed too, changed as a person- pushed him away and not a day goes by that I don't blame myself x
Its not that I pushed him away, he didn't want to have to deal with it or help: I have to do it alone. He didn't want anything to do with it
Original post by puella_optima
Its not that I pushed him away, he didn't want to have to deal with it or help: I have to do it alone. He didn't want anything to do with it
I'm sorry to hear that. I didn't actually tell my ex boyfriend about it until after we split up, but it was too late- he didn't want to deal with it either, I guess I wasn't his problem anymore.
Original post by Nader_KSA
He doesn't deserve you, men who breakup or cheat on their girlfriends are cowards. I'm sure you'll find a better boyfriend
That's what everybody says- but I don't know ever since him I've just felt totally worthless x
It does go away chick. I was cheated on. By the man I was suppose to marry a year later. Whilst my dad was in hospital after a major operation. I found out and kick him out my house.
It's very hard to get over, you may have trust issues for a while. But eventually it will get better. Your heart will mend itself. And be ready to be given to somebody else who deserves it
It's very hard to get over, you may have trust issues for a while. But eventually it will get better. Your heart will mend itself. And be ready to be given to somebody else who deserves it
Original post by Kellyxo
Happy new year firstly folks. I was just wondering, has anybody really truly loved somebody so much and then had their heartbroken by that person and managed to get over it? (You've probably all read my previous threads, cheated on, left for that person etc) But, after everything he put me through I still think about him from time to time, I just want to be able to look back on the memories and not get upset, but I always do. I put so much in to be with him and it wasn't good enough. It's been a month and a half now since we split up so when will the heartache eventually go away?
Yup twice. But I have come to realize that time heals the pain eventually, even if in the beginning it would seem like the world was beginning to end quickly. Such experience has proven invaluable, I know now not to pursue love until I'm prepared to settle down, or done with studying. I've learned to be careful, and use my emotions with responsibility. Tears, but I'm stronger now :')
Original post by Saffygirl
It does go away chick. I was cheated on. By the man I was suppose to marry a year later. Whilst my dad was in hospital after a major operation. I found out and kick him out my house.
It's very hard to get over, you may have trust issues for a while. But eventually it will get better. Your heart will mend itself. And be ready to be given to somebody else who deserves it
It's very hard to get over, you may have trust issues for a while. But eventually it will get better. Your heart will mend itself. And be ready to be given to somebody else who deserves it
I'm so sorry to hear. Some boys are so heartless. Sucks so much, and I hope so- I really do x
time heals a lot of things you may not think it now but it really does
chin up, surround yourself with happy people
everything happens for a reason, you may not have meant to be together, you'll find someone else
ive been there, heartbroken, and now im happy. it hurts at the time and dont get me wrong it hurts to look back on it but you wont get anywhere from living in the past, accept what has happened, move on
you'll be ok
listen to bob marley..... every little thing is gonna be alright
dont worry be happy
chin up, surround yourself with happy people
everything happens for a reason, you may not have meant to be together, you'll find someone else
ive been there, heartbroken, and now im happy. it hurts at the time and dont get me wrong it hurts to look back on it but you wont get anywhere from living in the past, accept what has happened, move on
you'll be ok
listen to bob marley..... every little thing is gonna be alright
dont worry be happy
I know exactly how you feel what happened to me was similar to you I was head over heels in love with my ex and he cheated on me and left me for the woman he cheated on me with. I never ever thought id ever move on or get over him. Its the most awful feeling ever you feel sick and like crying all the time I use to cry at the slightest thing that reminded me of him. What he did was awful and im sure your feeling like crap I know I went through the stage of thinking what did I do is it how I look am I not as fun or as pretty as her do I need to change.
In all honestly and month and ahalf is no time it took me a good 6 months to get over my ex. You go through different emotions you feel upset and hurt now then your feel angry and resentful and then finally you feel pity for them and stop caring. You must cut all contact I kept my ex on facebook and everytime I saw a photo of him and this girl I was back at square one. He moved on straight away my ex he showed no remorse and just didn't seem to care one bit about me. I actually got rid of my facebook for a long time and that helped. I found also talking about him and what he did helped because it got to the stage that I became bored of talking about him if it makes sense??. Focus on yourself whether its going getting a new outfit , hair done whatever. You must also have something to do/enjoy I threw myself into my studying and horses and the gym.
time plays a massive factor and its a horrible long road but trust me you will get over him but try be proactive about it, you have to think its his loss and this girl he cheated with is just a silly immature cow and karma will eventually hit. I like to think that if my ex hadn't done what he did to me id have never met my now boyfriend whose just amazing. You will stop caring eventually and it will go away.
In all honestly and month and ahalf is no time it took me a good 6 months to get over my ex. You go through different emotions you feel upset and hurt now then your feel angry and resentful and then finally you feel pity for them and stop caring. You must cut all contact I kept my ex on facebook and everytime I saw a photo of him and this girl I was back at square one. He moved on straight away my ex he showed no remorse and just didn't seem to care one bit about me. I actually got rid of my facebook for a long time and that helped. I found also talking about him and what he did helped because it got to the stage that I became bored of talking about him if it makes sense??. Focus on yourself whether its going getting a new outfit , hair done whatever. You must also have something to do/enjoy I threw myself into my studying and horses and the gym.
time plays a massive factor and its a horrible long road but trust me you will get over him but try be proactive about it, you have to think its his loss and this girl he cheated with is just a silly immature cow and karma will eventually hit. I like to think that if my ex hadn't done what he did to me id have never met my now boyfriend whose just amazing. You will stop caring eventually and it will go away.
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