Is Being gay Bad in This Day and Age?

Well it still isn't accepting trans women as women though isn't it if put bluntly. The whole point of them transitioning is that they ARE women, not this third in-between gender(although third gender also exists in a different capacity).
Tolerating isn't the same as accepting although of course it's better than being outwardly hostile and threatening them.

I guess it poses the question of covert discrimination. Does it still matter if you don't say anything but your actions speak for you?

Anyway - I'm not trans and I realise I'm being quite idealistic, but once you think about why people's preferences are the way they are, there's usually some prejudices underneath there.

But this is my sticking point. I don't want to be judged for who I do and don't want to sleep with

Well that's kind of tough. Some people will, some people won't. Just like some people will be racist, some people will be homophobic, some people will still continue to have every kind of ism.

There's no way to make everyone completely happy as at the end of the day, our preferences and habits do tend to have a knock on effect on others in society. We don't live in a bubble unfortunately.

I do think it is important to realise that some groups get more bull than others though. I'm not perfect but I try not to add to that.

But if there was a woman who said she didn't want to have sex with white men, I wouldn't hold it against her at all, so long as she was still respectful in everyday life