Am I at fault here or is she being stupid/overreacting?

Also, when she says she is busy for example..

I have a tendency to ask what are you busy with?

I know that is such a no no but sometimes I just say things without thinking and then I regret it.

How do I stop this?

Yes, you were at fault.

Pointless - she told you what you need to know.

Also - you cannot tell if someone has read anything on whatsapp. One tick means sent, two ticks means delivered to the phone. No way to tell if someone has read. Can only see if been online if it's turned on.

So next time, just wait for a reply and not message again, right?

Errrrr.? Are you trying to aggravate her and drive her away. Because you are doing it all.

Just stop and don't send things till you use your brain? Like 5 minutes till you send. Maybe longer since you seem to think all this hassling is is going to make her like you.

Right. Being pushy, demanding and needy is not attractive.

So next time, just wait for a reply and not message again, right?

yes, at least not until another day.

I hate getting ignored to, no you're not a fault. She can at least have the respect to say she's busy instead of being ignorant and ignoring you.

Ok. Let's say this happens again, I message her, she reads it but doesn't reply, and then I message her say the next day. Do I bring up the fact the she ignored me the previous day or should I pretend it never happened (and stop letting these small things affect me)

I don't know I just paranoid that maybe I've done something wrong and that's why she is not replying or something :/

If you message her the next day, pretend the previous day never happened. And yep stop letting the small things affect you.
Just open with a "hi, how are you today?" - if she replies, great, carry on the conversation. If she doesn't reply, just leave it until the following day, or even leave it a couple of days, and then reopen with just a "hi" or "wassssuuuupppp?!" if you're feeling quirky

but don't bring up the fact that she previously didn't reply.

I know right. That's what I am thinking. She came on whatsapp 3 times after I messaged. At least just say you're busy. But I won't insist again that's for sure.

I think that problem was that you said something like, 'if you're busy let me know,' which was a bit uncalled for, just because you didn't get an instant response. You could've worded it more politely so it didn't sound like she'd done something wrong (which of course she hadn't).

Anyway, sounds like you learned your lesson. It's good that you recognise it and know how to change your approach in future.

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