A Real Man

Original post by Friar Chris

You don't think that by setting impossible goals that you are destined to fall short of by no intrinsic fault of your own isn't just trolling yourself? Because that's what it sounds like. Don't be so harsh on yourself, grab a cake :colonhash:

but they're not impossible just very hard to do especially given my learning disability and mental health…but that should be no excuse, hence why I got so wound up about my ex and Superman (why else would she nickname a guy this, unless he could reach the criteria of a mortal Superman?)

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Birkenhead

A 'real man' doesn't use terminology like 'real man', 'alpha/beta' or 'sexual market value'.

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Dijonnay

Original post by Riku

do you not think that this is a bit of a…lofty list? I mean, lots of teenage girls genuinely put this down as the gold standard :confused:

soz had to google the word lofty :colondollar:

. Not gold standard but those are things that I would look for in a man. It's not all about looks. If you can provide, stand by, support, love, be honest and trust-worthy then you're a real man to me. Most teenage girls don't know what they want yet!Loool I'm one of em.

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Dr Pesto

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Original post by KingStannis

I'm a 'real man' and i don't show my emotions. Y'all's definitions are wrong.

That's because you're the most stoic man in the 7 kingdoms.

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iamu

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Original post by Riku

at the highest range of the scale yes (that's a clean bulk bro :wink:

omg that's so disgusting, u fat beast

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Original post by Birkenhead

A 'real man' doesn't use terminology like 'real man', 'alpha/beta' or 'sexual market value'.

but you cannot deny that my value list is fairly admirable if a little difficult to uphold in practice? :smile:

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Birkenhead

Original post by Riku

but you cannot deny that my value list is fairly admirable if a little difficult to uphold in practice? :smile:

What does the fact that the 'values' you list are desirable but hard to uphold have to do with what I said?

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Original post by Birkenhead

What does the fact that your 'values' are desirable but hard to uphold have to do with what I said?

I made a definition for a real man which you partially refuted and then I am gauging the extent to which you refute it :smile:

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KingStannis

Original post by Dr Pesto

That's because you're the most stoic man in the 7 kingdoms.

Can't argue there. Tbh i'm quite like Stannis in real life in many respects, except I have a witty, rude sense of humour and am making jokes every other breath. But apart from that, he's basically me.

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Original post by Dijonnay

soz had to google the word lofty :colondollar:

. Not gold standard but those are things that I would look for in a man. It's not all about looks. If you can provide, stand by, support, love, be honest and trust-worthy then you're a real man to me. Most teenage girls don't know what they want yet!Loool I'm one of em.

You make it sound easy :redface:

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nohomo

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Independent of what women think of him e.g. can become unemployed if he feels like it without worrying about girls not liking him

Smoker

Doesn't need people too much

:rofl:

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Dijonnay

Original post by Riku

You make it sound easy :redface:

lol I wish it was tho. Real men are extremely rare these days. :colone:

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Birkenhead

Original post by Riku

I made a definition for a real man which you partially refuted and then I am gauging the extent to which you refute it :smile:

I didn't refute any of the qualities you listed. I was attacking the pseudo-terminology you and others use, ('alpha/beta', 'sexual market value' etc.) and suggesting that for all the apparent macho of the PUA/BB community from which that language first reared its mottled head no man comfortable in himself and his masculinity would want to be heard using it. It comes across as slimy and pathetic, hardly pillars of masculinity.

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