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What is better: Arranged or a love marriage?

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Reply 40

jamaal15

mate love lasts shorter :smile:

And if your lucky it may last a life time!!!!!!!!!!!

Reply 41

Plumstone

I've seen love marriages which have gone well and love marriages which have gone wrong, I have seen arranged marriages which have gone well and arranged marriages which have gone wrong, neither system is inherently perfect.

Ultimately, I think it depends on the couple and I think it is wrong to think that the two options are polar opposites....

e.g. my boyfriend and I are white British, in love, and met at a dance, rather than through our parents, so if we get married, then it will be a love marriage, but we really value the opinion of our parents and our parents all think that we're a great match: my boyfriend's parents have told him to marry me as soon as I graduate from university and, although my parents think that it would be best for us to live together for a while first, just to make sure, they approve as well.

So I think a mix of the two systems where there is no pressure from parents to marry against one's inclination, but where families are involved and provide support is probably the best way to go :smile:

Reply 42

Sheikh.google

Original post by K1NG93

It doesn't really matter to me tbh. I've no shortage of girls as I'm good looking obviously as I'm a Pakistani and not an Indian. I get asked out everyday at uni by some girl. Too bad I've to say no as I'm not ready yet. But when the time comes for marriage, I'll know which one is the best for me although I must say that there is nothing wrong with either way of marriage.

Jog on mate. :lolwut:

Not trying to offend anyone's race.
But we all know Pakistani men Have never been blessed with good looks. :no:

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 43

The_K1NG

Original post by Sheikh.google

Jog on mate. :lolwut:

Not trying to offend anyone's race.
But we all know Pakistani men Have never been blessed with good looks. :no:

Yeah right. Tell that to all the girls who think I'm good looking.

None really.

Original post by K1NG93

Yeah right. Tell that to all the girls who think I'm good looking.

Furthermore Why are you gassing yourself on an internet forum?

You're not fooling anyone. :naughty:

Reply 46

The_K1NG

Original post by Sheikh.google

You're not fooling anyone. :naughty:

That's your job mate not mine

Reply 47

Sheikh.google

Original post by K1NG93

That's your job mate not mine

I never said I was. :lolwut:

And we all know you for your notoriety for advocating the death penalty for apostacy :wink2:

Reply 48

Summertime112

Love obviously..... Are you crazy???? Arranged???

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Reply 49

username1384880

Original post by Treeroy

lol why is this a question? anyone who thinks arranged marriage is good is suffering from stockholm syndrome

You do know the difference between an arranged marriage and love marriage, right?

Reply 50

Sheikh.google

Original post by UCAS problems :(

Love can come after an arranged marriage because allah puts love and mercy between you and your spouse :yes:

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Do you seriously believe this?

Reply 51

username1384880

Original post by Sheikh.google

Do you seriously believe this?

Someone mentions Allah and the Islam bashing begins.
Not the right thread.
:biggrin:

Reply 52

username1003420

Original post by rosebud114

Love marriage! I'm indian and I have never liked the concept of arrange marriages... I think if I left it up to my parents...yes he may tick all the boxes but I'm not exactly trying to buy a blender,I'm trying to find husband. Plus I also think it's important to broaden my search different races,nationalities etc. if I left it up to my parents I know their search wouldn't be as exciting! Plus I think it is important to love someone before you decide to spend the rest of your lives together...so yeah love all the way!!

I 100% agree with this, if I left it to my parents I know for sure all the guys they'll pick would be bengali, from a specific village and everything. :rolleyes:

Reply 53

Sheikh.google

Original post by NaTaLiiA513

Someone mentions Allah and the Islam bashing begins.
Not the right thread.
:biggrin:

No I'm not.
don't jump to irrational conclusions. :hand:

I was just asking Quantum if he was serious or not?

Because he normally makes quotes on Islam
then he jumps back to being an Apostate.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 54

username1384880

Original post by Sheikh.google

No I'm not.
don't jump to irrational conclusion. :hand:

I was just asking Quantum if he was serious or not?

Because he normally makes quotes on Islam
then he jumps back to being an Apostate.

Ah, I see. I usually see you and a few significant others on the religious forums. I was assuming that a bashing marathon was about to begin, this is not the case.

Reply 55

Treeroy

Original post by NaTaLiiA513

You do know the difference between an arranged marriage and love marriage, right?

Yes, which is why I said what I did. If someone genuinely believes an arranged marriage is better (or even equal to) a real marriage, then they have psychological issues.

Reply 56

: தமிழீழ விடுத

Arranged marriage definitely.

I except my wife to be like me (virgin,non smoker/ non drinker /clean past).

Reply 57

Espeon196

Original post by tammie123

I 100% agree with this, if I left it to my parents I know for sure all the guys they'll pick would be bengali, from a specific village and everything. :rolleyes:

This is something which I've noticed as well. When people get arranged by their parents, their parents will nearly always pick someone of the same ethnicity(even sometimes same village).
Even in my family all those that got arranged married Indians and those that didn't married non-Indians.

I do know of one person that kind of got arranged(not by parents though) and married someone from a different country.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 58

bertstare

Both are ****, in different ways.

Long term, arranged marriages probably make more sense. Short term, love marriages are obviously more exciting.

In conclusion though: marriage sucks

Reply 59

Jgco2chem

Love marriages tend to end badly,
For example in Game of Thrones Robb stark marriage...he should of married the Walder's daughter and then he could of defeated the Lannisters.