Would you stay away from someone or think they were odd for doing this?

If you knew a 28 year old girl/woman who dated a 57 year old man would you think she was odd, would you not want to be friends with her?

I did and people now give me funny looks (me and the man go to the same fitness club have done for years he used to train me but i always had a bit of a crush on him)

Dont know if im just imagining things but since people found out they sort of stare, smile a bit then look away.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 1

MrSuavetopia

19

If you're happy, ignore the rest. I personally wouldn't care who you were dating.

ewwww

57 wtf the only reason you dated him was for the money.

Reply 4

manic_fuzz

17

I may find it a bit odd at first but if you were my friend I'd probably voice any concerns instantly and then quickly get over it. I'm not sure if I'd ever want to hang out with someone so much older in terms of going out etc, but I'd definitely not break up a friendship over it.

Reply 5

Slim and proud

12

Original post by civilstudent

If you knew a 28 year old girl/woman who dated a 57 year old man would you think she was odd, would you not want to be friends with her?

I did and people now give me funny looks (me and the man go to the same fitness club have done for years he used to train me but i always had a bit of a crush on him)

Dont know if im just imagining things but since people found out they sort of stare, smile a bit then look away.

As long as you're happy, why should you care what others think.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Honestly, no.

You're both adult and not a young adult.
I believe you know what you are doing.

As long you're happy.

Ignore other people judgements. Who are they to judge? It's your own business and not theirs.

Lastly, a love would not be affected by the surroundings.

Reply 7

xoxAngel_Kxox

21

I'd find it odd but really it's none of my business, and other people's opinions shouldn't influence how you act. We'd never do anything!

Reply 8

anonymouspie227

20

tbh, its not like she's 12

Reply 9

Kerrias

13

I lived with a family where there was a 28 year old woman married to a 55 year old man. Most people (including me to start) judged them. A rich, not conventially handsome middle aged European man who was already divorced married to a really beautiful, young Russian woman. But when I got to know them, I realised that it wasn't like that, at least it wasn't a conscious decision. She was more than a trophy wife for him and he was more than a sugar daddy for her. They loved each other, it was the most loving and beautiful marriage I've ever seen, they were great parents together to their young child. Although I did before, I wouldn't anymore judge anyone who was in a relationship with someone much younger/older than them.

Reply 10

gemmam

17

Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox

I'd find it odd but really it's none of my business, and other people's opinions shouldn't influence how you act. We'd never do anything!

This.

Reply 11

civilstudent

OP

10

Ok thanks. Its just if someone suggested i date a 50 odd year old i would be like eww no way but he is different like i see him rather than his age : /

Reply 12

upagumtree

12

Stranger things have happened :smile:

Reply 13

civilstudent

OP

10

Original post by upagumtree

Stranger things have happened :smile:

Like what lol

Reply 14

crozibear96

16

No. I think it's sweet. They must face so much judgement and prejudice everyday, yet they withstand it all just to be together.

Reply 15

inachigeek21

12

Honestly wouldn't care OP.
Your life, your choice, you're both entitled to freewill.

Reply 16

civilstudent

OP

10

Out of interest would it bother you guys if say a potential girlfriend/girl you liked had previously had a boyfriend 30 years older than her? Would you view her as dirty or promiscious or anything like that?

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 17

Guy Secretan

18

Why did you start dating him may I ask? Also did you sleep with him?

Reply 18

CatnipGlows

20

It's never something I would do, and to be honest I would find it a bit weird.

But why should you care? As long as you two are happy, you shouldn't care what other people would think about it. And it certainly wouldn't stop me from being friends with you :smile:

Reply 19

SophieSmall

21

Wouldn't bother me, I'd wonder why you did but I probably wouldn't ask unless we were good friends and you seemed open to it.