My mum gets angry I'm having sex.

Well if she was saying "be careful, use condoms, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with", that would be showing she is worried to me, but saying "you're getting a reputation" is more just bitchy to me.

Personally, I prefer my families approach- just never talk about sex, pretend we all aren't doing it. I know that's the opposite of what they tell us, but it's worked for us I think.

I didnt. As I mentioned in an earlier post she found out by reading a text.

My mum gets really angry Im having sex with my boyfriend. I am 18 and we are in a serious relationship. Its not even like I was a virgin when I met him as Id had one previous partner. She says Im too young amd he will lose respect for me and Ill get a reputation for putting it about as he isnt my 1st. I respectshe wouldnt want me to do it in her house so we always do it at his and we are sensible about it so I dont really see the issue. I dont want it to become an argument but in my opinion I am an adult in a commited relationship with someone who respects and cares about me. How do I explain this to her without causing an argument.

You're 18 she reads your texts, tells you you can't study in Manchester and is getting involved in your sex life. She seems pretty controlling maybe you need to stand up to her a bit.

I didnt bring it up with her. She saw a text from my bf asking if Id booked an appointment with the nurse to discuss birth control and she kicked off.

To be fair I can see where your mum is going with it. Like if you're adult enough to do you should be adult enough to not be careless and let your mum read such text messages. All you need is a condom if you're going for the pill that suggests it would be more regular and maybe you are not ready for that. Just because the legal age is 16 doesn't mean you should start having sex. Homesexuality used to be illegal which is wrong. The law is not the perfect guidelines to follow all the time.