help? or AMA: 17, Studying A2, Hopeful Medic and Have just found out i'm pregnant.

No I think you're being ridiculous actually. No one is pretending about anything, he simply stated that all those methods combined are very unlikely to cause pregnancy to occur and he is correct.

So if she is allergic to condoms and can't take the pill, she should just go an have sex anyway? What are you even trying to say. I would say if people want to avoid being in this situation they should seek suitable methods of contraception, whatever their situation.

There are mini pills and there are pills that don't contain certain ingredients that a woman may be allergic too. Honestly people need to stop being so irresponsible, there are many options out there to stop you from getting pregnant, don't act like it just happens and there is no way of controlling it -_-

No I don't think it's OP's fault per say...but I do believe it's wrong to send out the message "Oh you are just another statistic where you just happened to get pregnant even though you used contraception properly". -_- It's also dangerous to say that using all those methods of contrecetipn is "pretending". Responsible people out there, who want to engage is safe sex probably do use the correct methods to avoid pregnancy and infections etc.

Brutality

OMG this is such an awful message to send out to todays youth!

Yes, because you totally have enough money to spend on a ****ing child. GROW UP. If you're not mature enough to understand contraception, you shouldn't be having sex. End of story.

Sigh... if only you'd been taught sooner along with everyone else who believes it is not their fault.

The most common reasons for a condom to fail are:
1 - Not storing condoms properly
2 - Not using good quality lube
3 - Condoms not put on properly
4 - Condoms not used for ALL genital contact.
The most common reasons for the pill to fail are:
1 - Forgetting to take it
2 - Not taking it in a timely fashion

So, that poster was right: user error. There is basically a zero chance of pregnancy - as near as you can possibly get - when you use contraception properly.

Zaffre, you SHOULD NOT be having sex. If you cannot afford to pay for safe condoms/contraception then do not have sex. If you cannot afford contraception then you cannot afford a baby, so don't have sex. Simple as. How unintelligent are you?

I meant that if a girl is allergic to condoms OR can't take the pill, so one of the other. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

A relatively common problem is suffering from a very sensitive hormonal system, whereby any sort of hormonal contraceptive (including pills, implants, injections, etc) has many potential side-effects which can include dramatic (negative) changes to the menstrual cycle, acne, etc.

Guys I've not had time to read the comments thanks for speaking I'll try to reply tomorrow.
And to all the people suggesting I speak to someone professional, I literally have no self esteem or confidence and cannot bring myself to anything like that (at the moment). I'm quite stuck and that's why I resorted to student room as I'm applying to uni.
It took me a lot of courage to build up the trust I have with the dad, I've know him since I was 6 so that's the only reason I had the confidence to do what I did with him.

I really don't think I could go on a five year course when I have a baby at home, so I don't know what to do. I'm quite edgey at the moment, I think the main thing for me to get straight is that I have to chose between family/unbearable guil , medicine or a baby. I think I've come to terms that hurting myself is probably the worst outcome, yet the easiest option but Ill need to come to sort something out soon.

I just wish it never came to this! 😥

Realism.

Brutalism confrimed

Zaffre, you SHOULD NOT be having sex. If you cannot afford to pay for safe condoms/contraception then do not have sex. If you cannot afford contraception then you cannot afford a baby, so don't have sex. Simple as. How unintelligent are you?

I meant that if a girl is allergic to condoms OR can't take the pill, so one of the other. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

A relatively common problem is suffering from a very sensitive hormonal system, whereby any sort of hormonal contraceptive (including pills, implants, injections, etc) has many potential side-effects which can include dramatic (negative) changes to the menstrual cycle, acne, etc.

I said he was "pretending" that he was some sort of wizard who is immune to pregnancy because he forks out at least £27 every time they have sex for the morning-after pill, has magic condoms that he will never tear and has an 100% effective pill. I wasn't saying that it's a bad idea, I just meant that it's not very realistic for the majority of people.

My main problem is the fact that this is not the place to bring up contraceptives, and it's awful at how it's being used to shame an emotionally vulnerable 17 year old girl.

What I meant was that it's called emergency contraception for a reason - it's not designed to be used every time you have sex if you're using other methods.

The pill (combined and POP), injection, IUD, IUS alone is more 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, less than 100 women every year will get pregnant on it.
The implant is the same, and fewer than one 1000 who use, will get pregnant over three years.

I'm sorry but if you're getting pregnant even on these contraceptives alone, you're not using them properly. If you're using condoms as well, then you need to go back to basic sex ed and learn to use a condom lol. Theonlymrsholmes & smellyprotein are correct.

Very sensitive hormone systems can use the copper coil. No hormones involved.

lol Calm it dude.

Abortion is OP's choice, not ours. She already said she was completely against. So it's up to her.


Tbf I'm even going to lie, people don't think of the repercussions of having a child, I mean YOU ARE HAVING A CHILD! An actual human being and the word "huge responsibility" doesn't even cover it imo. It's not easy, and if you want to proceed with education, especially medicine(one of the most stressful forms of higher education) I can't imagine having a child at present could make that easier.

No but people really don't think, like so many girls from my secondary school, it's just shocking how many have gotten pregnant. They are so young! So young. So many of them were ridiculously immature and childish too.

Supposing one of those women from, say, the implant had a split condom due to, say, rough sex it is possible, no?

That's the point I've been trying to make for the last two hours. That yes even if it's almost impossible, it can still happen.



Doctors can make a mistake inserting it. Can also cause pregnancy.

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Brutalism is an architectural movement.

Supposing one of those women from, say, the implant had a split condom due to, say, rough sex it is possible, no?

That's the point I've been trying to make for the last two hours. That yes even if it's almost impossible, it can still happen.



Doctors can make a mistake inserting it. Can also cause pregnancy.

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I have said all this, I have talked about side effects and I have also talked about the morning after a pill and how it's not supposed to be used regularly. I think you are not reading anything I have written.

I'm not shaming OP at all, I have even offered her some helpful advice if you look up.

I just think your backtracking on your silly argument.

Ij just think there is huge amounts of irresponsibility linked to teenage pregnancies now a days. I'm talking about girls, when I say they should know how their body works (what contraception works and what doesn't) before having sex. It's just so irresponsible not too.

Where have I backtracked?

The reason most of my posts don't directly counter your argument is because they were in response to SmellyProtein, such as the part about the morning-after pill. I'm arguing the same side as you on this, but you called me out when I talked about pricing. Obviously I think it should be used when needed, but that wasn't what had been suggested. The shaming OP part was also in reference to SmellyProtein as I have seen your advice, and appreciate that it's helpful and on-topic.

And I fully agree with you that many people aren't responsible - both guys and girls. However, talking about contraceptives isn't advice to someone who is already pregnant.