I got pregnant at the age of 23 to a man I never loved. I was very lonely and just wanted a baby as I felt it would be the making of me. The second my son was born I realised I had made a massive mistake and that having a baby was nothing like I imagined. I had been very sheltered and immature in my reasonings for having a baby. I love my son but haven't got a maternal bone in my body and have struggled so hard the last two and a half years. I feel no bond and no enjoyment from him. I have had counselling, been diagnosed with postnatal depression when it got so bad I simply couldn't cope anymore. I've had counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy and while they've certainly helped, I have never felt like a Mum. Maybe if I were married, settled in a job and living in an area I liked then I would not be like this. But As it goes I am only starting out in life and live a very isolated life as I've had to move away from family and community to live in an area that had jobs in my field (social work).
My son's Dad offered to have him in the week so see if I am happier then. Currently I see my son every other weekend. Every two weeks I have him from Friday night to Sunday morning and I'm enjoying this set up. I no longer have the responsibility of his day to day care which I found so isolating and stressful and I'm able to enjoy the time we do have together. His Dad lives in a nicer area, with a large extended family, his Dad enjoy being a Dad and has taken naturally to it and he has a much better life with him.
I currently officially have custody but I am planning to give his Dad joint custody and continue with this arrangement. Do you think there's anything wrong with this? Obviously this is a very common set up but it is usually the Dad who see the child at the weekend.
I don't have any experience in this area so just looking for advice.