Year 10 social life

I am so annoyed. All my friend's parents let them go out to parties and with boys. Mine are literally so annoying. I can't go to a houseparty with some girls and boys from school and they literally grounded me for asking. I am almost 15, and a brown girl living in London. Are my parents overtly strict or is this normal? I know the party may have been a bit yk.... but it is still so unfair that I can't even experiment with my own life and have fun doing some risky stuff because I'm only a teen once. Am I over-reacting? Or, are they too much.

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soupstore

10

I wouldn't worry too much. You're only 14 and I think at your age your parents probably still want to protect you from things like drinking/drugs/sex etc. If it's any help, I'm 18 and I only properly started going to house parties in year 11. See if you can maybe try to compromise with them, e.g. arranging a smaller event with friends or something

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

nah girly honestly being brown is hard sometimes icl. my parents are the exact same if not worse and i know the feeling. im not allowed any social media (no snap, no insta, no tiktok, not even bereal) and have had my phone and ipad taken away since the end of dec bc they found out i had snap. and its bullsh*t cos i love socialising and going out too - its literally in my personalty. it feels sh*t cos like u said u are only a teen once and this is the time in ur life where u can mess around and just live those last few years of childhood having fun and being young dumb and risky yk. dw about ur parents they just being brown and honestly the whole brown society is just so toxic and f*cked so dont feel like ur the only one in this situation bc u dont even know how many of us there are out here feeling the same. just fight through and make sure to ask every now and then in case they do let u but if they say no just accept it and wait cos i promise it will be better around uni time x

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seaqueen6457

10

Original post by Anonymous

I am so annoyed. All my friend's parents let them go out to parties and with boys. Mine are literally so annoying. I can't go to a houseparty with some girls and boys from school and they literally grounded me for asking. I am almost 15, and a brown girl living in London. Are my parents overtly strict or is this normal? I know the party may have been a bit yk.... but it is still so unfair that I can't even experiment with my own life and have fun doing some risky stuff because I'm only a teen once. Am I over-reacting? Or, are they too much.

ur only in year 10, u have so much more time to go out partying. I only went to 2 parties throughout the whole of secondary school 😭 and I promise year 10/11 parties aren't all they're made out to be and are kinda boring/ awkward

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limbobimbo

16

Original post by Anonymous #1

I am so annoyed. All my friend's parents let them go out to parties and with boys. Mine are literally so annoying. I can't go to a houseparty with some girls and boys from school and they literally grounded me for asking. I am almost 15, and a brown girl living in London. Are my parents overtly strict or is this normal? I know the party may have been a bit yk.... but it is still so unfair that I can't even experiment with my own life and have fun doing some risky stuff because I'm only a teen once. Am I over-reacting? Or, are they too much.

From one brown girly to another lemme tell u one thing.
It's possible to let ur parents out, I did and im a hijabi with a strict muslim dad.
The way i did it doe was by gaining my parents trust, i showed them i could go out by myself safely (so i ran errands, etc) and for every one more errand id run id ask my mum 'oh can i pop by primark rq?' Or 'i wanna go to the park b4hand can i?'.
Yes i was met with stricts nos but being consistent is keey, at one point ur parents WILL let you out.

Also, you gotta build sum sort of friendship line b/ u and ur parents (i did it with my mum) so that one parent can back you up when u wanna go out.
Luckily for me my dad didnt care so long as my mum gave me perms so I just had to convince my mum 💀

Even then, this took me like till the end of year 11 and now in 6th form can i finally go out (by telling them ofc).
Don't expect to just be let out within the first few months of tryna convince ur parents, unless ur super lucky/convincing brown parents dont budge!

And my parents didnt rly mind if i hung out with boys since I grew up with most of my family friends being boys, but in ur case it seems like ur parents might not be the comfiest with u hanging out with boys they dk.
So, dont lie to them but if they dont wanna know whos coming etc dont tell them! Or just mention a girl friend?

Goodluck girly, its tuff

Reply 5

limbobimbo

16

Original post by limbobimbo

From one brown girly to another lemme tell u one thing.
It's possible to let ur parents out, I did and im a hijabi with a strict muslim dad.
The way i did it doe was by gaining my parents trust, i showed them i could go out by myself safely (so i ran errands, etc) and for every one more errand id run id ask my mum 'oh can i pop by primark rq?' Or 'i wanna go to the park b4hand can i?'.
Yes i was met with stricts nos but being consistent is keey, at one point ur parents WILL let you out.

Also, you gotta build sum sort of friendship line b/ u and ur parents (i did it with my mum) so that one parent can back you up when u wanna go out.
Luckily for me my dad didnt care so long as my mum gave me perms so I just had to convince my mum 💀

Even then, this took me like till the end of year 11 and now in 6th form can i finally go out (by telling them ofc).
Don't expect to just be let out within the first few months of tryna convince ur parents, unless ur super lucky/convincing brown parents dont budge!

And my parents didnt rly mind if i hung out with boys since I grew up with most of my family friends being boys, but in ur case it seems like ur parents might not be the comfiest with u hanging out with boys they dk.
So, dont lie to them but if they dont wanna know whos coming etc dont tell them! Or just mention a girl friend?

Goodluck girly, its tuff

ALSO, going to a house party is extremely difficult as a brown girly!
But its for ur own good ngl, the stuff tht goes on in sum parties is mad crazy and you'd be better off home safe away from danger and RUMOURS (some can haunt u into 6th form and even uni)

So maybe try to organise stuff outside at parks or restaurants etc?

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