is it worth moving out for uni for this reason
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Not really. There’s no guarantee that you’ll move away from home after university and then you’ll be back in your toxic household three/four years after you initially move out.
Get a degree apprenticeship, or any sort of apprenticeship that pays enough for you to move out of your parents.
Get a degree apprenticeship, or any sort of apprenticeship that pays enough for you to move out of your parents.
Don't bother
Hey,
I am sorry to hear you are struggling with things at home.
At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you and your health and well-being and if you think that's moving out I would say go for it. Alternatively is there any way you could perhaps talk with your parents?
Hope things start to get better for you
Rebecca York St John Student Ambassador
I am sorry to hear you are struggling with things at home.
At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you and your health and well-being and if you think that's moving out I would say go for it. Alternatively is there any way you could perhaps talk with your parents?
Hope things start to get better for you
Rebecca York St John Student Ambassador
Original post by Rebecca YSJ
Hey,
I am sorry to hear you are struggling with things at home.
At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you and your health and well-being and if you think that's moving out I would say go for it. Alternatively is there any way you could perhaps talk with your parents?
Hope things start to get better for you
Rebecca York St John Student Ambassador
I am sorry to hear you are struggling with things at home.
At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you and your health and well-being and if you think that's moving out I would say go for it. Alternatively is there any way you could perhaps talk with your parents?
Hope things start to get better for you
Rebecca York St John Student Ambassador
i have tried talking to them and there isn’t a way around them unfortunately. it’s always been like this since i was young but i just couldn’t do anything about it back then.
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
It depends, how much is the accomodation? Could you afford it? How's the situation at home can it be resolved by talking or its really bad.
Original post by materialgw0rld
It depends, how much is the accomodation? Could you afford it? How's the situation at home can it be resolved by talking or its really bad.
probably starting from around £150 per week. the situation at home can’t be resolved because it’s been the same for years now :/
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Hi there,
That sounds like it ,just be difficult for you, I'm sorry. Is this something that you could talk to your parents about? Do they know how much it is affecting you? Maybe you could make a pros and cons list for both and decide which would make you happiest and then how you can make that happen.
I hope this helps you,
Eleanor F
Student Ambassador
Original post by Anonymous
probably starting from around £150 per week. the situation at home can’t be resolved because it’s been the same for years now :/
You can try finding other private student accommodation, they are usually cheaper than ones provided by universities and then see how you want to go about from there
What year are you in? Move out. Uni are best years are your life and you’re wasting them being at home ffs.
Original post by LawStudent456
What year are you in? Move out. Uni are best years are your life and you’re wasting them being at home ffs.
i finished my a-levels last summer but i’m on a gap year right now. i’m not too keen to move out for the “uni culture” it’s more because of my family lol
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Hi there
I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through a challenging time. I would suggest creating a pros and cons list as it may help you visualise your options. Whilst living at home will save you a lot of money (as you mentioned), you also need to think about your environment and how it may affect your studies. If you feel that your mental health would benefit more from moving out and its something that you can afford then go for it.
There are many pros to living on campus. It's safe, a great way to socialise and make friends, you will be able to go out to clubs/bars and have people to home with, it increases your independence, helps you develop numerous skills, you are closer to lectures/uni facilities, it can be easier to attend events put on by societies/the uni etc. That being said a downside to living on campus is that it does cost money and not only do you have to pay rent and bills, you will also spent money on food, socialising, items for your room/kitchen etc. Maybe an option could be applying for the cheapest accommodation at uni? It might not be the most luxurious but it means that you can be at home a lot of the time, save a bit of money and you always have a place to go and take a break/study?
Ultimately its is your decision and you have to go with whatever feels right. Prioritise your physical and mental health and know that there are people at uni that can support you. Please reach out to the wellbeing team at your uni if you feel that you are struggling. Hope this helps
Best wishes
Joanna
-Uni of Kent Rep
Original post by LawStudent456
What year are you in? Move out. Uni are best years are your life and you’re wasting them being at home ffs.
It’s not the best years of your life for everyone. It is complete agony for me.
I would always recommend trying moving out for university. Even if it’s just down the road.
Better to try it and see than deal with what-ifs and resenting your family even more.
If you move out and hate it then moving back wis always an option and you might find that your relationship with your family changes having left and then returned (you might appreciate them more, they might appreciate you more - by moving out then it might force them to start treating you as more of an adult etc etc).
It’s not a golden bullet and moving out is difficult but you’ll learn more about yourself by trying it. Well worth the investment. Plus you’re likely planning to move out anyway at some point - delaying that until after graduation isn’t going to make anything improve sooner.
Better to try it and see than deal with what-ifs and resenting your family even more.
If you move out and hate it then moving back wis always an option and you might find that your relationship with your family changes having left and then returned (you might appreciate them more, they might appreciate you more - by moving out then it might force them to start treating you as more of an adult etc etc).
It’s not a golden bullet and moving out is difficult but you’ll learn more about yourself by trying it. Well worth the investment. Plus you’re likely planning to move out anyway at some point - delaying that until after graduation isn’t going to make anything improve sooner.
Original post by LawStudent456
What year are you in? Move out. Uni are best years are your life and you’re wasting them being at home ffs.
The idea of moving out of your house for uni life is strange and not everyone has the same sentiment, i dont really wanna move out but uni offers dictated it as such, but i dont think uni life should ever be a large deciding factor of it you move out. it should be finances and stability both mentally and financially
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Hello,
Greetings! Hope you are doing well.
It's understandable that you're feeling torn about whether to move out or stay at home. Here are some factors to consider that may help you make a decision:
Your mental health: It's important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. If living at home is negatively impacting your mental health, then it may be worth considering moving out to a place where you feel more comfortable and at ease.
Financial considerations: Moving out can be expensive, and it's important to consider whether you can afford it. Consider the costs of rent, utilities, food, and other living expenses, and weigh them against the savings you would make by staying at home.
Academic considerations: Think about how living arrangements will impact your studies. Living on campus or close to campus can make it easier to attend classes, participate in extracurricular activities, and make friends with other students.
Support network: Consider the support network you have at home versus the support network you would have if you moved out. If you have friends or family who live near your university, they may be able to provide you with emotional support and help you adjust to your new living arrangements.
Ultimately, the decision of whether to move out or stay at home is a personal one that depends on your individual circumstances. It's important to weigh the pros and cons carefully and make a decision that is best for your overall well-being. If you're feeling stuck, consider talking to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor for additional support and guidance.
Warm Regards,
Megha Sharma
Student Ambassador
MSc Business Analytics
Coventry University
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Hi there,
I think you have to do what is best for you. If it is best for you to move out and live in university accommodation that is what you should do. Although it can be expensive, I think that if your mental health will be better by moving out then thats the answer for you. Uni can be tough at times and you definitely need somewhere where you can focus to get your work done as well as have a relax after a hard day at uni.
I really hope this helps,
Ellen
Y3 Medical Student
University of Sunderland
Digital Ambassador
Original post by Anonymous
i finished my a-levels last summer but i’m on a gap year right now. i’m not too keen to move out for the “uni culture” it’s more because of my family lol
Hey, i'm in the exact same boat as you and i was wondering 2 months later what are the updates? Are you planning on moving out or still unsure
Hey!
Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear that things have been tough at home. It definitely sounds like a tricky situation but I am glad you reached out so that we can all support you. You are not alone.
Whether to stay at home or move out is really only a decision you can make, but I would say firstly weigh up the cost of moving out vs staying at home. You mentioned being able to save money by living at home, but it could be worth exploring the idea of moving out so that you have your own space that you can call your own, where you can get a break from home life. The cost of living is really difficult at the moment, as we all know, but your university may be able to help you with budgeting and may have things such as hardship funds and cost of living breakfast events etc. like we do here at Swansea!
You could also consider the social life and support networks that you get at university. You will no doubt make lots of new friends and live with new housemates, branching your social circles and gaining a whole new network of support.
Additionally, universities often have dedicated support services and welfare teams who may be able to help you to deal with some of the things that are going on at home. These can usually be accessed whether you live in university accomodation or not, so when you enrol at university I would definitely check those out!
I live around an hour away from my home town, and still feel like I have a good amount of distance from home to live independently and distance my studies from home life, so that is possible, even if your university is super close to home.
Lastly, I would say do what is best for your studies. University is quite a bit commitment, and you want to be able to put your all into your studies to get the best degree that you can! If this will be easier for you if you have your own space living away from home, then it's definitely something to think about.
There are some threads which I have written about leaving home and making friends/finding new experiences at university. They are specific for Swansea, but maybe the general tips in there will help!
Do what makes you happy.
Hope - Swansea Student Ambassador and Second Year Graduate Entry Medicine Student.
Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear that things have been tough at home. It definitely sounds like a tricky situation but I am glad you reached out so that we can all support you. You are not alone.
Whether to stay at home or move out is really only a decision you can make, but I would say firstly weigh up the cost of moving out vs staying at home. You mentioned being able to save money by living at home, but it could be worth exploring the idea of moving out so that you have your own space that you can call your own, where you can get a break from home life. The cost of living is really difficult at the moment, as we all know, but your university may be able to help you with budgeting and may have things such as hardship funds and cost of living breakfast events etc. like we do here at Swansea!
You could also consider the social life and support networks that you get at university. You will no doubt make lots of new friends and live with new housemates, branching your social circles and gaining a whole new network of support.
Additionally, universities often have dedicated support services and welfare teams who may be able to help you to deal with some of the things that are going on at home. These can usually be accessed whether you live in university accomodation or not, so when you enrol at university I would definitely check those out!
I live around an hour away from my home town, and still feel like I have a good amount of distance from home to live independently and distance my studies from home life, so that is possible, even if your university is super close to home.
Lastly, I would say do what is best for your studies. University is quite a bit commitment, and you want to be able to put your all into your studies to get the best degree that you can! If this will be easier for you if you have your own space living away from home, then it's definitely something to think about.
There are some threads which I have written about leaving home and making friends/finding new experiences at university. They are specific for Swansea, but maybe the general tips in there will help!
Do what makes you happy.
Hope - Swansea Student Ambassador and Second Year Graduate Entry Medicine Student.
Original post by Anonymous
i’m thinking about moving out for uni because my family are affecting my mental health. my parents don’t get along at all and are always arguing and i don’t get along with my sister all the time either.
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
however idk if it’s worth me moving if the uni is only a 20 minute commute for me so it’s not too far. i could save a lot of money by staying home but then i’d have to deal with living in a toxic household so i’m abit stuck. any advice?
Hi, I am so sorry to hear that and I am also in a similar situation and I have no idea what the right decision would be even for myself. Do you have an update on what you’re wanting to do?
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